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It's basically a 'jealously' thing
MY friend is like relly relly relly skinny I mean she's thin right. My other friend is pretty thickish..I mean she has huge boobs and she's um overweight 4 sure. The problem is my friends, esp the thinest one, complains about her stomach. I'm overweight...and I kinda luk it in my school uniform.
They always complain "oh I luk so fat" "my stomach's getting huge" "oh if I eat chocolate i'll get diabetes" and it sorta sucks.
I'm not jealous of them because my stomach isn't huge it's jus a lil fat. It makes me feel bad because sometimes I'm down and they complain and complain and I get so upset. Plus I'm relly RELLY emotional.
Is there something I should do or should I jus act like I don't carE???
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I have also been in this position, and yeah, it really sucks.
The best thing to do is talk to them about it, but without making it into a big deal. Try your absolute hardest not to blow up at them or get super angry- I know it can be difficult, but it will make talking to them a lot easier.
Just casually mention to your friends that it makes you feel bad when they put themselves down, and tell your skinny friend that she is super skinny and has nothing to complain about. Just say that although they should be able to talk to you about their insecurities because they are your friends, you would appreciate them not constantly complaining about themselves.
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If you feel bad about yourself still, you could try to lose some weight. You don't need to go on Atkins or whatever if you're just a little chubby- just try to cut out the junk food and maybe get some more excersize.
Good luck with your friends, hope I helped :)
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Okay, tell them how you feel. You should try to express yourself to them. And I think you might wanna help your "skinny" friend become a bit healthier.
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I think you shyould try to lose weigh if you really sad so you wont stress
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Tell them how you feel. I hate hearing people complain about their weight, especially when they're not fat at all. Just explain nicely that you don't like it when they complain about their weight all the time.
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By all means ask your friends to stop, not because their discussion makes you feel bad (that isn't a very good reason really) but because the constant discussion of ones weight is a waste of time. This is what I often say to my female friends "Look, if you want to loose weight and talk about working our and eating healthy I would LOVE to listen and support you, but if you just going to complain, please stop. Surely we can think of better things to talk about."
In the end your feelings are your feelings and not their fault. If you are really emotional, then that is something you have to work on for yourself, not something they have to tip-toe around. However, girls who constantly complain about their weight tick me off too, so go ahead and ask them to stop. If they don't, ignore them or steer the conversation away from their weight. Make it clear it isn't something you have the slightest interest in discussing.
(Getting diabetes because they ate chocolate? That is the dumbest thing I've heard today. New studies actually suggest that dark chocolate might reduce the risk of developing diabetes. Sure if she is already diabetic avoiding chocolate is smart, but she isn't going to catch it from an O'Henry for goodness' sake.)
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That's what girls do. They obsess over their weight. It can get pretty annoying, and I know exactly what your going through. Try changing the subject, or just sit them down and have a conversation about how it's bothering you. If you want, you can make a rule that you can't call yourself fat, or talk about body parts that are fat. We made this rule in my cabin at camp and it helped people feel less self-concious. Hope this helps.
-cindy <3
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