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"Friends with benefits"
So I have this friend I've had for a couple of years, and today we were in his room and he got a bit "touchy-feely" and kept asking for hugs and stuff. Usually he's not like this at all. Anyway, soon as I was about to leave he went to kiss me on the cheek.. and I kissed him on the lips.. not knowing he was just going for the cheeks. lol. We kissed for about 20 seconds, then I broke it off... and said goodbye and went home. Well I feel really weird about it now, partly because I enjoyed it and yet he's been a friend for a long time. I don't regret it though. But I'm the type of person who takes kissing someone pretty seriously.
I know this kind of thing is pretty common, and I shouldn't let it affect things between us. I don't really want a relationship right now. However.. not sure whether we should just let this go, put it behind us.. or whether we should do the whole "Friends with benefits" thing.
Thanks for your help.
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even though you say you don't want a relationship right now i think that this is the perfect oppertunity to have one. sense you two are best friends it makes it even better. when you date your best friend you feel so comfortable and you just know that it will work. you know pretty much everything about them so you know that you can trust them. i deffinatly think you should tell him that you have feelings for him and that you think that someday you guys will be more than just friends. because i know that if you did become more than friends your relationship would be perfect. it already seems just by reading this that you two were made for each other and you obviously already can tell he has many feelings for you. i say that you should start a relationship out of this it would probobally be the best relationship you ever had. please take my advice. and if you need anymore just ask =]
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I think that friends with benefits hardly ever works out. Someone always gets attached, jealous, heartbroken, etc. And do you even know if that is what he wants? You might want to just straight up ask him how he feels about you, before you lead him on thinking that you want a relationship with him.
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What are friends with benefits?
Yeah, I take kissing someone really seriously too. Again, I say, just observe the field, see what could happen, and see what will happen, and what new path that opens or closes. Then hang out with him for a day again, and see how that plays out on the big field again.
And if you don't want a relationship right now, don't tell him yet, only if he looks like he is getting too serious.
And hell ya, I bet it felt good. But try not to do anything like that again. and definately don't take it any further than kissing.
Or heck, I think I got the sense of what friends with Benefits means. heck, why not?
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you may not want a relationship right now but friends with benefits isnt the answer! im saying this because becoming friends with benefits never works out, theres always one of the people who get feelings and become attached and want the relationship to become more. dont get caught up in that, you may end up wanting more and he may not, and then it hurts alot, and you deffinitly dont want that. if anything, consider a relationship with this guy, think to yourself did you enjoy it, do you want to do it again, do you deep down feel more for him? and then after thinking about those things, see what his reaction to this situation is, dont do anything until you see how he feels about it. maybe if you both want more, he will wait til your ready for a relationship. and make sure to stay friends, thats really important! good luck, and tell me how it works out!
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if you liked kissing him, and dont regret it - then you shouldnt just shrug it off. alot of relationships between people happen after they have been friends/bestfriends for a while. id see how he feels about you two being together. but forshure tell him you dont want a relationship right now. just be honest. tell him you think your interested but you dont think its the best time. you could always go the "friends with benefits" thing - but that could always go wrong and you get attached then get your heart broken. i think you should just be honest with him. honestly - 20 seconds is pretty long for somethign that was an "accident". i wouldnt feel wierd about it - obviously, you enjoyed it. it shouldnt matter that hes been a friend for a while.. besides the fact your comfortable around him
hope this helps!! :] ♥
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