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Something's wrong with my brother
guys you gotta help me here!
My brother had always been a very popular, very colourful, very fun outspoken person..
But yesterday, he came home..and went straight to bed (if you knew my brother you'd know there's definitely something wrong!) So I went in to his room, and he was asleep, and you could see that his pillow was wet from crying. But i decided he needed to go through it on his own. It would go over. But today he came home and did the same exact thing, so I went in to his room, and asked him about it (and he know's he can trust me, we usually tell eachother everything!) (by the way, I'm 15/f he's 13/m) and he just said "nothing, I'm tired" bt I wouldn't let go, and kept asking, telling him whatever it is, I'm here for him, I love him, he can trust me..and so on, and he just started crying, but wouldn't tell me, so I stayed for an hour in his room, next to him, and he wouldn't stop crying! He just started crying more and more, until he lost his breath. I'M SO WORRIED!! We both jst ended up sitting there crying..and I don't klnow what it could be, he usually tells me about his friend-problems, gf-problems, and I already know about all the family problems (trust me, our family is the family from HELL) but idk, what could it be? Why do you think he suddenly won't tell me what's going on with his life? What can I do to help him? Or to get him to open up?
Please help me, thank you!
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just wait and see if time goes by maybe he wont be so sensitive about it and hell tell you ; tell him that when he is ready your there for him becuas eits better to tell people things than to not tell anyone exspecially becaus ehe can trust you he will probablly eventually tell you
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Well, your brother is at a very fragile age for guys...the beginning of puberty. Since I have a 12 year old, my guess would be that someone is bullying him at school. Guys get to that age where they won't tell because then the bully will retalitate. It's a tough situation! He's lucky to have such a caring sister like you. The more you ask the less likely he is to tell. I think it would be best to spend some quality time with him doing something that he wants to do, like a movie or the mall or even going to the park. Tell him he is free to talk about whatever is bothering him at anytime. Once he has a chance to think about it, I bet he will open up to you.
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He made a mistake, what it is, I don't know. But the mistake is killing him, or made him realise something. He did something wrong.
And maybe he made a promise not to tell you. Or maybe he made a promise or has a secret, those stuff get to you too if you don't know how to handle them.
And maybe you just leave him for a while. That might work.
Or, it might be drugs, who knows?
Or maybe he joined the Heresy.
who knows, but I don't think he is in any physical harm. Its something mental!
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I think that you should just give him space and time. if he keeps doing this you should probably tell your parents or maybe even ask his friends about it.It might be somthing that (you may not want to hear this and im really sorry!!) you cant help him with, my brother did that one time..and i think you should just give him time and space..eventually it will blow over..but until then just let him know your here for him and he can come to you--just so he knows.keep me updated=)
<333 lila
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Well it's probably just a boy thing. I guess it probably has something to do with everything. Maybe he's just tired of the world right now...this happens to me alot I jus come home and I cry and cry and I have no idea y...it's jus I'm ffed up with this world. Jus show him some support.
Lutz of luv
Jamee
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He may just need a little bit of time. You might want to talk to your parents about it though if you're really worried, or ask one of his friends what they think could possibly be wrong. But don't try to pry too much.
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Hi
Wow....what a great sister you are!!! It's so nice that you and your brother are close, especially since your family life is so difficult.
You can't force him to tell you what's going on, but I'd wager a bet that in time he will open up.
He knows you are there for him, and that you want to help, and that is so important.
Maybe he's embarrased to tell you, or scared you won't understand. Maybe it's something so private that he just can't talk about it at this point.
Just keep being the great big sister that you are, and he will confide in you eventually.
Take care,
Brenda
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