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Sticky Situation
I was at a retreat with my friend "Susan" for a weekend. Friday night, I told her that I liked this guy "Charlie." He doesn't know that I like him. The next day we go about our usual retreat business. Sunday, after telling her that I don't think "Charlie" likes me, she tells me that he likes me. "Susan", I'm not sure she is telling the truth. But I did notice "Charlie" giving me 'the i like you look.' "Susan" says that she got the info from "Freddy" who heard it directly from "Charlie." I'm really not sure who to believe. What do I do?
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you need to talk to him yourself. that way you're not misled, and you know the answer straight up. even if he says no, you will feel good about yourself for speaking up, and reward yourself with a day to relax, and just have fun.
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If you really like Charlie, don't involve any one else. This is not between you, Susan, Freddy and Charlie, its between you and Charlie.
I'm guessing you're older than 8th grade, but I think this true story of my life applies to your situation no matter how old you are.
Once, I told my friend "Alexa" that I really liked our friend "Vincent". Everyone had seen us in the halls flirting and laughing with each other. We were the talk of the 8th grade. One day before lunch, Alexa tells me, "Guess what? You're going out with Vincent!" (going out, in eight grade only meant we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend, there was no actual "going out", you know) She'd taken it upon herself to ask him out for me. I'd involved her. Anyway, I'm in shock, because I'd liked him for FOREVER. At that point I didn't care that she hadn't asked me about it first. By the time I got to the cafeteria, everyone knew and everyone was talking to me and looking at us. Vincent was THE catch. Then, before I even get to talk to him, Alexa came up to me again and said: "I'm sorry, he changed his mind." It all happened so fast, I didn't really get upset about it until later that day, in the halls, when he completely ignored me. I was devastated.
On top of that, I found out Alexa had been harboring feelings for him the whole time and THEY started talking the next week.
Try to talk to Charlie yourself. My guess is, he knows you like him now, because Susan told Freddy and Freddy,in turn, told his buddy Charlie. While your friends mean well, I'm sure Susan is no Alexa, this is about you, Charlie and the possibility of having more than a friendship with him. If you want him to know something, tell him yourself.
Beware of catty girls who want to "help you" get a certain guy, only to sabotage you by saying mean or embarassing things to him behind your back, ala the movie "Mean Girls".
Good luck with Chuck.
Shade
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talk to "charlie" yourself. if you are hearing different stories, its better if you find out first hand so you know..
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