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Give and Take?
My boyfriend lives about an hour and a half away so I stay over there a lot. He won't stay at mine. It really annoys me when my boyfriend goes out all day so I'm stuck at his with nothing to do because I can't get home. The other day we were arguing about it when his mam said to me, "I'm not butting in, but it's give and take in a relationship." What does that saying mean? And what does she mean when she says that? Because to me it seems like I do all the giving by going all that way to see him and he does all the taking by ditching me to do something else, but she was supposedly standing up for her son?
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She's right a relationship is give and take.
AND you're right you are giving and he's taking...
He needs to respect you.
Put your foot down. Stop giving!
If he can't give a little, he's not worth it!
Don't go to see him all the time and don't give in, just because you want to see him, if you are sitting all alone at his place it's only going to make you build up resentment. Resentment is a killer on relationships.
Give him a chance to come to you.
Take!
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Ok i understand that you love him But girl hes not worth it. If you come all the way down there to see him and he "has somthing better to do " Hes a waist of time .
Give him a reality check! Say hey , you obiously dont appreciate me as much as i do you so maybe i need to fnd somone who will give as much as i do.
see what he says. That will shock him. Just when he thought you would be there for him and always be there to see him .... the fact that your not goign to wait around for him all the time will stun him.
If he agrees with the break up then you knwo he's not for you . And from every relationship you take somthing good and then you move on and your next relationship is just that much better.
If he says " no, i love you and appoligizes. Then simply tell him your not goingt o be waiting around for him and if he wants to se eyou he can make the effort to come see you . Tell him if you mean that much to him then he will make that extra effort . If he ends up showing up at yoru house a few times then try going to his house BUT as soon as he says " im going out bye, say ... C YA Buddy .
Another thing is if you tuly love him you are comfortably with him . There for you should tell him that if he LOVES you he would eb proud of you so why doesnt he shwo you off. Tell him to take you with him. pleasse e-mail me if you take my advice let me know what happends im curious hottie_sexy_chick_69@ghotmail.com ( i didnt make up my e-mail addy . An it was in grade 8 lol )bye!
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My guess would be that his mom meant that you're the one whose been giving in the relationship by staying there all of the time while he's just out taking.
Heres the point: If he's not spending time with you while you are over at his house and you've talked to him about it, then you should tell him that you aren't coming over there anymore. Seriously. I know you may really love him, but you've done nothing but given him yourself while he's out. He needs to return the favor by staying over at your house or actually staying at his house while you're there.
Let him know that when he's out while you are there at his house makes you question this relationship. The only way he'll listen is if you show him that you aren't going to stay at his house while he's out. Don't use words anymore. It's time to start using actions. And when you begin to feel guilty and miss him, remember the fact that you've done all you could. You've confronted the situation, and you've been over there enough times to know that he's just going to leave again.
-TheTeenGirl
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I think she meant that you are the only one who is trying to make this relaionship work so you give and give , and your boyfriend does nothing for you. That not right, it's not suppose to be this way, both of you have to make you relationship work, you both have to put in an effort
And no I don't think she was standing up for her son but she was telling you that what he's doing is wrong
Hope I helped
AB
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