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A friend who copies constantly
I've been friends with this girl since the beginning of 8th grade - we're in 9th now. She's friends with most of the same people as me and we're pretty close. Last year she did what she wanted to do and didn't really care what others thought. Now, she's started copying my sayings, my interests, all of my music, my books, absolutely EVERYTHING. And also, one of our other friends got her hair cut short a bit ago and the copying girl just went out and chopped all of her hair off too. This annoyed both me and the girl who got her hair chopped off first.
I've tried everything - ignoring it, not talking about my interests, asking people for advice - but nothing works. I need to make her realize that she needs her own identity - not mine and everyone else's. Is there a way to confront her non-threateningly? What should I do?
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WELL i have someone just like this. yes, you need to confront her. Tell her in a nice way like "i really have noticed you have been copying me of what i do, say etc, thank you, but stop PLEASE. i said thank you in there because she ADMIRES you, not in gross way. just how you look and act. she wants to be JUST LIKE YOU. yes yes , that can be annoying. all u can do is confront.
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Make sure you let her know that you value her own style because she is her own person. She doesn't have to be like everyone else in order to be liked. I had a friend (now my best friend) who would copy everything everyone else did/said/wore/etc last year. This year she realized that she is her own person and she shouldn't care what others think. If she wants to wear a poodle skirt over jeans with a neon green sweater, she will because she knows we are all still going love her. Just make sure this person feels like her own person and that she should never give that up for the world.
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I think you are taking this thing the wrong way. When someone wants to be like you, it can actually be a really neat thing.
I know you may be annouyed, but she'll eventually just go back to who she was. This is all normal. Everyone has this phase in their life where they want to be like another person because they really admire them. And the best that you can do is just wait until she realizes that she should start being her own person. Being annouyed is ok, but it comes to a point.
The way I see it, you have a pretty big impact on the person she is right now. So, instead of being annouyed, just try taking this as a compliment. She really likes you enough to copy your interests, and sayings, and a lot of things about you. This won't go on forever. It's a temporary situation.
-TheTeenGirl
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You two became friends because you like each other. Usually people like each other for something in common. Apparently she likes a lot of the same stuff you do.
There isn't much you can do about this problem...
You may confront her but it will only get ugly. You can't make a conversation about someone copying non- offensive.
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