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i hate my family. help!
ok so heres the deal. my mom and dad divorded when i was 2 years old. he already had kids with his wife before he married my mom and so they never have liked me (my half sisters) since they were older and one has a daughter that is only 5 months younger than me so they never liked my mom either since shes 16 years younger than their dad and my dad... so they of course hate me and my dad sorta likes me well i know he loves me as his child but he never approves of how i do my hair, how i dress or anything. he doesnt like that all my friends are guys. he doesnt like anything about me... my music... or anything. hes always unhappy about something im doing. so yeah. i have TRIED SO HARD to make him like me and to make my relationship better with him but he seems to always find a way out. and hes 62 and has had a heart attach and since i dont live with him i live with my mom i dont see him alot and he keeps telling me if i dont like it out there i should just come twice a year instead of twice a month. its gotten to where i hate to go although i want to be close to him but now i just seem to cry about it everyday and i want to give up. so should i just give up on him and not really have a dad since he doesnt act like my dad as it is... or keep trying and feel the pain. im just afraid hes gonna die and ill never know what its like to have a good father daughter relationship. opinions/advice please! i rate 5's.
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I don't think that you should give up, but maybe you should give this a rest.
I think that you should try talking to your mom about what's happening between you and your dad. And if she's not emotionally available, then try talking to someone else, like another family member, or a counselor at school. Someone who can let your dad know that you are upset with the way things are happening with the both of you.
Everyone usually goes through a time in their life where they are unable to connect with their parents or their whole family. And it's really hard on you because these are the people who you come home to every night. It sounds like there are tons of things happening at once in your family and it's all hard to balance out and keep track of. What you have to learn is that you won't agree with everything your family says or does. And a lot of teens wait for their parents to agree with them, but just because you don't agree with everything, it doesn't mean that you can't get along or have a good relationship with them.
It's just like having friends. Your friends may think that it's ok to do something while you totally think it's wrong, but yet you can still be really good friends. Not everyone is just like another person, but yet we have to find a way to still get along or live with each other.
You can also try buying your dad a card telling him that you love him and you really want to make things better in your relationship.
-TheTeenGirl
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Hi
Sounds like your in quite the bind! I'm so sorry that you are going through this turmoil.
I have two stepkids, and I see the pain in their face all the time at the tug of war that they feel.
You need to be where it is safe, secure, happy, and healthy. If you are not getting all those from your dad's home, then I would live with your mom.
You don't need to cut off all contact with him (always let him know that you are there if he needs you, or wants to really talk about the issues that are affecting you.)
But aside from that, you don't need to be putting yourself in a situation where life is extremely difficult.
With that being said, please realize that life is not going to be 100% glorious anywhere you live. Ups and downs happen. I wish you the best. Take care.
Brenda
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Hey lol im so sorry..i wouldnt no what thats like but i hope you will figure things out...uhmm i would try a little longer just to see..maybe try things you never thought would work..they usually do...uhmm if that doesnt work eventually id say give a rest at least for a while i mean thats not really acting like a dad what he is doing...another option is to confront him ask him why you feel your not good enough for him its ohkay to spill your tears and let it out you might feel better maybe hell notice what hes doing wrong is SO COMPLETLY WRONG and if he doesnt and it just brings more pain when he says something else just take a deep breath and walk away and then id say just let it go thats not a dad...but when your older and married you'll get to see your husband..and you can always make sure he treats your kids right...hope i helped try to stay on the bright side!!
Tawny
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