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its all because of me :(
ok...me and my x-boyfriend's relationship was going great...but 3 months into it he started to slip into depression...i ask people what i should do and somone gave me the brilent idea to complament him and try to get him to feel good about his self...so i did just that...than...2 weeks later after i was complamenting him he dumped me and went out with my best friend!! and now he thanks me everyday for helping him "meet the love of his life" ...he said he would have never walked up to my best friend if he didnt have confedice... and it makes me feel like he was just using me!!.. should i be upset? or am i over reacting?...
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I think you do have a right to be upset.Maybe he didnt intend for you to take it this way maybe he thought you wanted him to go out with your best friend.I think maybe you should talk to him about it.
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well i would be sad.. i mean i would feel hurt and used.. u have a rite to be bummed out, i think u should keep your head high with confidence, and make it seem like you dont even care, DONT LET HIM GET TO YOU HUNN! i also think what your friend did was wrong to.. just forget about her ! if she was really your friend she would not have don that to you!!
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meaning that this is u x-boyfriend and your best friend then you have a right to be a little discouraged. But dont ruin your days over it. I mean theres other guys out there and he was just a jerk because he was probably using you.
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Hmmmm. This is a tough one. You should ask yourself something: did/do I want what is best for him...or was I in the relationship just for me.
If you do want what is best for him [which I'm not saying is not you], then you kind of gave him just that. If he was feeling low, and you brought him back up, then you did some good right?
I don't think he was intentionally using you. Did he need/use your help - yes. Is that bad? Of course not. If you want to be upset that he's going out with your best friend, then I guess you could be. You shouldn't be upset or think that it's because of you he's not going out with you.
You should try to let it go and move on, because think about it - what if his depression got worse? Would you rather that happen, then have him and other people blame you for making it worse or not helping? In my eyes you helped him a great deal, and shouldn't be too upset over the outcome. Better that then an attempted suicide, you know? Well anyways hope that helped and good luck.
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omg how mean he should've dumped you b4 he went into this "depression" if it was all bc of her then you could've helped him still; maybe but anyway you really cant do anything but live with it
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Unfortunately, you can't control his feelings towards her. And I understand why you think he was just using you, he did give that impression by saying he never would have gone for it without encouragement, so it seems like he liked her for awhile. But it was rotten of him to go after your friend and it was worse for her to say yes.
But I think you should move on. At least you know that now instead of when you really become attached to him, because then it would hurt even more. To be blunt: Out with the old in with the new.
You have EVERY RIGHT to be upset, and don't let ANYONE say otherwise.
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First of all you have a right to be upset, at both your ex and your best friend. If she is really your best friend she wouldnt have even talked to him or thought about him in the wrong way after you broke up. You should definately talk to her and tell her you really liked him and you still do, tell her that if she was your best friend that she wouldnt do that. I hope I helped but you cant control his feelings. Im sorry, I wish the best to you.
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o my..that's so mean you have the right to be mad at him and maybe you should talk to your friend and ask her why she would do that..but in the meantime move on..there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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I think you should talk to him about it beaucase if a guy had ever done that to me i would wonder why he did that...i dont know if he was useing you or not. mabye you should also talk to your best friend about it.
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hey, yes you should be upset!! THATS HORRIBLE. you need to talk to him about it NOW. and ask him why he would do that to you. cait♥
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oh that is bad.
i know how it feels when you help someone and in the end, that someone ends up dumping you and going for your best friend. worst still, he THANKS you.
that's totally crappy.
well, since he is already moved on, i would suggest for you to just forget about it and move on too. there's no point in holding on right sweetie? :)
you're still young. so go out, hang out, make friends, and trust me, he'll regret losing out on such a great girl like you! :)
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