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Jealousy - ! -
Hey I am really jealous of my best friend and recently I have become quite depressed about it and cutting out bits of skin and crying on a night. Her we go:
*We have similar personalities but its like whatever she says goes more than what I say
* She has a big immaculate house, a perfect family and generous parents and she doesn't act a bit spoilt at all but shes always complaing about her life to us.
* she can afford to go to posh gyms and restaurants and buy whatever she wants
* Shes really pretty, even though people say Im prettier, and she looks gorgeous in the simplest of outfits because she's born with a perfect tan and the perfect body.
* its all happening for her: boyfriend( that i fancy n could have had but was too shy to go for it wen she started likin him), partys, money, moving house, more friends
* shes buying all the clothes i want but she doesnt know it and i get depressed because people will think im copying her.
i could go on forever. Everyone likes me just as much as her its just its like she has more to offer and i know i seem like a depressed teenager but i need something to overcome this jealousy before i snap. luv rach xxx
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Rach,
You shouldnt be naming all the things your friend may seem has "better" than you. Stop comparing yourself to her. You even said people think youre prettier, they like you both the same.. and im sure you have alot of things going for you. You shouldnt be depressed though, im sure people feel jealous of you too. Everyone does at one time or another. Also, you probaly already know this but someone is always going to be richer, prettier, smarter, sportier.. you name it. Dont let that get to you. Be happy with what you have, be grateful, be you. Oh and you said that people think you copy her, screw them! You shouldnt care what people say or think ;)
hope i helped.
-beckss
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Hi Rach
It's so easy to get caught up in envy...which to me is what you are feeling more so than jealousy.
There are ALWAYS going to be people that you feel have it better than you. There are ALWAYS going to be people that have more money, better looks, better boyfriends, but really.....who cares.
You said yourself, everyone likes you, you're pretty, and you can get the guy!! You need to look within yourself and realize how lucky YOU are.
There are probably several girls in your school that look at you and wish they had what you do.
When things seem to get you down, make a list of all the things you can be grateful for, and know that there are millions of people who have it far worse than you. Take care.
Brenda
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hey just get rid of her. honestly, you will feel much better. all you described were material things. it doesnt seem like she has a lot of love in her family...except her boyfriend but who cares hes probably using her anyway. not like they are going to get married.
no worries babe, stop the cutting, it really isnt worth it. ive been where you have before.
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hey, well i dont think the problem is her, i think the problem is you. you have no self esteem and lack self confidence. you need to build up those two things and then you wont feel like this anymore. give yourself a facial or get one. get or give yourself a manicure and a pedicure. go out shopping and buy clothes that you like. take a bubble bath. do anything to feel pretty. then youll alawyas have that confidence if you continue doing that. cait ♥
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You 2 are not real friends...So you could move on and forget that she exists.But i don't thing that the problem is her.You are not self confident.This is what happens to you.Trust your self!
You need to unerstand those things!
Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !
Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:
a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too.
b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell.
c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good at anything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose a sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don't let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image.
Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it's about not thinking bad for no reason!
d) Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn't mean you're always going to feel that way. I have seen hundreds of people surprise themselves once they have learned how to build self confidence in a way that it stays built!
Remember that everyone is special, everyone is different and others like you because you are different.
Furthermore, i believe that your friend is jealous of you.I am sure about it. boys,clothes,personality...
Honey, she is jealous of you.You can't see it she feels it..
Kisses, i hope i helped...Emily
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