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I don't know what to do anymore
Me and my best friend got drunk about 3 weeks ago. Now my dad absolutely hates her and calls her a druggie and an alcoholic just because she drank once which was with me. My dad is very strict and very controlling and he's not the kind of guy that should be a father. He used to hit me when I was little and I'm deathly scared of him. I told my school guidance counciler(sp) about how me and my best friend did that and how my dad and mom knows and she says that they should be forgiving because I learned never to do something like that again because I didn't like it. So now i dont know what to do. My dad won't even talk to me and when he does he gets in my face and screams at me. even threating to bash my skull in. I told him he makes my life miserable and he said "NO I FKING DONT DONT EVEN GIVE ME THAT" and i said "how can you tell me if you do or dont" and he just said he knows he doesn't even though he makes my life a living hell. I got about two C+'s on my report card and he screamed at me and said "WHY DONT YOU GO STUDY YOU DUMB SH-T!!" my best friend can;t even go on our huge school fieldtrip becayse my dad called the school and told him I wasn't aloud to be with her. I tried talking it over with him and he just screams at me. On top of that, my mom comes home drunk every night and I don't even want to be living here right now. Does anyone have any help for me? I need it fast because I don't know what to do with myself anymore.
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It sounds as though your dad is terrified you're going to do the same as your mom and doesn't know what to do about it. He may be over reacting but if he learnt to deal with a problem in this way by his parents for example, he won't know how else to react. He's probably under a lot of pressure with your mom and is desperate for history not to repeat itself. Can you try to talk to him when he's calm, explain quietly that you understand it was a stupid thing to do, you hated it and certainly won't be doing it again. Agree that you will be making every effort to improve your grades but please don't blame your friend as she did not force you to drink and she is really sorry as well.
If possible try to talk to him abut your mum, say that you're worried about her, and ask if there is anything you can do to help.
If all else fails, and you didn't say how old you are, is there a relative you stay with for a while, just to give you both breathing space?
I understand how hard it is to cope with a parent that knocks you around, I had that problem when I was young. However, since I grew up and left home, my dad and I get on really well, I'm not scared of him anymore and I tell him what I think. So, please, don't give up on him entirely, he sounds as though he needs help. At some point you may be able to give it, and he will come to value you more than you could imagine now. Good luck.
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Im no expert on this topic, however, now that im a litle older i see things in a different perspective..Everybody is quick to judge the father, even go as far as saying "hes not the kinda guy that should be a father". Last i looked you are the one that got busted drinking alcohol, got c's on your report card, and yet when your dad sees this and gets mad, its his fault? I dont know what else goes on in your life but from what im reading maybe the problem is that you are doing things that you shouldent be.
Think about that and try to change your ways, maybe your dad will change his.
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You did the right thing by turning to the school counselor, but now it just sounds like the way you are living is unbearable.
I think what you should do now is ask the counselor for some help on trying to move somewhere else. A friend, another family member who can take you in, or someone who can take care of you for a while. I think that you should probably ask your counselor for help because your parents probably won't let you move out, which is why you need to turn them in or something.
If this isn't an option for you, then I think you better seek help from your counselor and tell her everything thats going on and how much it's hurting you. It sounds like you shouldn't be living there anymore. If you need anymore help concerning this problem, don't be afraid to inbox.
-TheTeenGirl
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like OH em gee i could cry! like fo-real im going through about the same stuff!!
but for me the counslor didnt do much! they didnt even believe me! and it made it so much worse!!
like i realyl wish i knew what i could say and make ou feel better! becuase im the same way i wanna leave this house adn get outta here! but i cant!!
and like reading this i can relate to you! i mean i no i dont no you and you dont know me! but if you ever just wanna talk and for someone to listen please email me its a_dolphin@comcast.net!!
i'll listen and wont judge you!
im not trying to sound like a freak but im serious some of my problems relate to yours! and i wouldnt mind talkin to you because sometimes i wish i had someone to talk to thats gone or is going through the same thing as me!!
but yeah well i hope in some way you feel better after reading this!=]
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