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Lesbian mum
I'm 15/f, and my mum has a lot of problems including alcoholism which I won't go in to, but she split from my dad when I was 7.
They never told me why but by the time I was 11, I'd worked out she is gay. It scared me so much, I convinced myself I was insane so I wouldn't have to deal with it. And no-one else knew. Then, about 18 months ago, my mum told me and my brother that she's gay. It hurt to hear it out loud, but was a bit of a relief too.
We've never ever spoke about it since, but I know she has a current partner, and she's becoming more... open with her partner in front of me. Which I can't stand. I can't tell her how this gets to me, I just can't bring myself to mention her sexuality, it hurts too much. What can I do, apart from walking out everytime they're together?
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your mom needs your acceptance. think about all the gay teens who long for their parents acceptance of their sexuality. your mom is in thei same position. try and accept it. your mom is a human bbeing and this is her sexuality. i never really saw things from the eyes of a gay person until i watched some movies about gay teens coming out to their parents..so maybe watch some of those and maybe you will see things diferently. of course it is going to be weird..but try and accept it and over time it will get easier
acceptance is key in this situation
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well i think when its just you and your mom you guys should talk about it tell her how you feel about her and her parntner please let me no what happends
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Why is this so difficult for you deal with?
Please know I'm not trying to make light of your feelings at all, I'm just very curious why you are responding so harshly agaisnt this.
Do you think your mother's sexuality is a sin? Are you afriad of what people might think or say? Are you just confused or uncomfortable with anyone your mother might have in her life? Are doubtful about her feelings towards you?
I honestly think it's very important you discover just what about this makes you so unhappy. Your mother isn't going to stop being a lesbian. She might stop exposing you to the truth so much, if you speak to her about your feelings, but the facts aren't going to change.
Talk to your mother about your fears and how uncomfortable you are. Be honest, with her and with yourself about just what the problem is. If you bottle this up, it will just swell and ruin your relationship with your mother as well as make you miserable.
You might want to think about talking to a counselor as well to help work out your feelings. Once you understand where this pain and fear is coming from, it will be much easier to deal with.
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Darling I know its tough and it kills you inside but it will hurt more if you don't deal with it out loud. Talk to your mother about it. Maybe you two together can talk it all out and hear eachothers feelings about it and maybe even reach a compromise like she won't bring her partner around you or something else. The conversation will feel devastating at the time but if you bottle it up it will explode later in other ways.
I send all my luck and support.
Glamour
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There are to things you can do one tell her how you feel second never become her and learn from her mistakes if you believe in god you can pray about it every time I pray it helps allot.
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