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i met this girl on the first day of kindergarten and i'm in 8th grade right now and we have been best friends since then. over the summer, her dad died and since then she has been hanging out with all these other people but not me. it's not that i'm jealous but i still want to be good friends with her. i am not looking forward to an answer saying "move on cuz she's not a good friend" i'm just still upset about the fact that she just like stopped being my best friend overnight. is there any way to get her to like me more so she'll want to hang out with me more other than talking to her? because she's not the type to sit and listen to what i wanna hear. i'll rate high.
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there was this boy i met in fourth grade, we would always trade insults. sure i would always denied i liked him. but he had his nice aspects and i somewhat considered him a friend.
but then his father died. and then he grew distant, he dropped out of school. and now i haven't seen him since 5th grade.
your friend most likely is suffering. when someone loses a family member, they have many ways of reacting. my friend reacted by dropping out and never having to face any of his old friends. perhaps, the death of her father could have triggered some sort of reaction that caused her to want to hang out with a whole new crowd. perhaps she wants to start over new, and try to forget about her father's death?
but i don't know the whole situation so i can only tell you to try to reach out to her. invite her over to do something you guys used to do before her father died.
or you could try to hang out with the other people too. that may sound conformist, but if it gets her to notice you and realize the effort you're spending on her, maybe that'll shock her into realizing she still has you.
the way to get her to become good friends with you will probably have to be to make her realize how much you want to be good friends with her. of course many would recommend talking to her, but i suggest something else.
perhaps get her a gift, maybe an inside joke or something that'll show her you still care. think about some of your favorite memories and try to incorporate that into getting her attention too.
once she realizes that she still has you, she should come around.
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I know you don't want to talk to her about it but its the only way.
It doesn't have to be a long talk. Ask her if you did anything to offend her. Tell her you miss hanging out with her, ask if there is anything you can do to change that. :)
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If she's hanging out with other people, maybe you should start trying to join her new group of friends. I don't think you will be able to make her drop her other friends and just hang out with you. Things probably won't be the same between you two.
Another thing you should consider is the fact that you are asking how to get this girl to like you more and hang out with you more when she should already be doing that if she still were your good friend. I'm not saying that she isn't a good friend, but if you are finding yourself trying to squeeze into her social life when you didn't have to before, then maybe she's moving on.
What you should do is try calling her or asking her if you both can hang out after school or on the weekend. Try to make plans, because it sounds to me like she's not going to be the one to make the move. Believe me, even someone you've known for so long can change overnight into a whole different person. You think that you'll be best friends forever, but then it turns out that it's not happening that way. I know thats why you probably don't want to hear that you should move on. Because you believe that she'll be the same person forever. Remember, if you find yourself trying so hard, it's not worth it anymore.
-TheTeenGirl
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