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i dont know what to do
my best friend likes the same guy as i do. its no fair cause i liked him first and starting talking to him first. but now she's talking to him and flirting constantly with him. she always gets the guy she wants and i dont think it is right. i dont know what to do. she knows i like him and she still does it. this isnt the first time either. she seriously my best friend and has been since 1st grade. i dont know what to do about her though. i really like this guy and im afraid that if she keeps flirting with him that he will start falling for her and i really dont want that to happen. i invited him to the movies and he said that he would get back to me on that either way. i dont know what that means. what should i do about this?
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Yeah sucky situation and hey we all hate people who can have anyone they want but neither of you have any claim over him yet so basically he's fair game and your friend isn't technically doing anything wrong, though i think it's not something most would do to their friends if they could help it.
On the other hand that also means you are free to put up a fair fight for him too-get to know him, flirt etc etc. so if you think your friendship can withstand the blatent competition, go for it.
This is more about your friendship than the guy- if she's a good friend she's much more worth keeping than a guy however it seems right now and if she's not then you've gota start thinking about finding some friends who treat you better. The guy will basically like who he likes and there's really not much you can do to change his mind. all you can do is let him know you're an option.x
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This has happened to me, about 3 times, and yeah, I know its horrible. There's not really much you can do, except for flirt with him constantly (like your friend). Also, ask for his moby number or msn addy, then don't give it to your friend so you have more chances to flirt with him.
Right, this is gonna sound horrible and bitchy, but recently I liked the same guy as 2 of my mates, and it turned out he liked one of them back. The one he liked also liked this other guy (even more than she liked the guy we all fancied), and she is like, my best friend and had told me her msn password. So, one day I went on there, changed her name so it said about the other guy she fancied and when the guy we all fancied came on, i pretended to be her and was really distant with him. Then, I went on as me and was really flirty. I hoped that he'd see the difference between us (how one was distant and one was flirty) and start to like me.
I'm not suggesting you do this as it is really mean (i feel guilty, but at the time i just wanted him to be my boyfriend, and that seemed the most important), but, if she fancies another guy as well, then maybe you could sorta slip it out to one friend, and it would probably get back to him, and he might think - oh, well, she doesnt really fancy me, so i wont ask her out.
Also, ask him to go to places with you, I know you asked him to the cinema and he said he would back to you, well, he probably does want to go, and just has to check he's not busy on that day.
If all thsi fails, get yourself a boyfriend, but still very subtley flirt with the guy you and your friend fancy, he's bound to get jealous!
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TELL THAT BITCH TO BACK UP.but if you know he really likes you & you r sure you like him you tell her that or explain to her, or get closer to him on a level she can 't touch.
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I know how you feel exept she wasnt my best friend. I liked this guy for a year and a half and then she comes in likes him for about a month and now they're going out. I was heartbroken.
Personally I think if she really likes him its not fair for you to be mad at her. People can't contol who they like they just do.
You should maybe talk to her about it and see what she has to say. Maybe she doesnt realize what its doing to you or even what shes doing.
I think you're just jealous, if he likes her back yes its going to hurt but she likes him too, people cant usually control who they like.
Now theres another issue that could be going on. All of this should be fine if she REALLY likes him. If shes trying to make you jealous and doesnt like him that much thats just wrong and you need to confront her but you have to make sure you know that she doesn't.
It's a very heartbreaking situation for you I know I've been there but just try to understand her point of view. What if you liked who she liked after she did but you truly liked him. You would want attention from him too.
I'm not trying to make you the bad guy because I deffinately know how you feel but you just have to think of what they're thinking.
If that made any sense at all.
Hope I helped =)
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This tends to happen a lot with friendships and I really don't know why these girls have to take advantage of their long friendships by doing this.
But, I think you should try confronting her with this problem first. I know you may not think she'll own up to it, but just give it a try. I'm not expecting her to come forward either, but if she's really your friend, she'll take your feelings into consideration and watch what she's doing. If she gets defensive and upset when you bring up this issue, you just need to say:
"We've been friends for years now and I've always trusted you with my feelings and as a great friend. I would never try to make things up to ruin this friendship because it means a lot to me and when I see you flirting with so and so, I feel like it may not mean as much to you as it does me. I just wanted to let you know that this is hurting my feelings."
And if she's still angry, let it go. As for these guys that your friend is after, whatever you do, don't go to an extreme with flirting with these guys. You don't want to find yourself in competition over a guy that is only a crush to you and your friend. Let things happen. If this guy doesn't want to go to the movies with you, then he doesn't. Too bad for him. Don't throw yourself at him. If a guy truly likes you, he won't make you fight for him, he will come to you and notice you. Don't worry about what your friend is using as bait, or how she may do something to make him like her more. You will stand out to a guy over other girls eventually.
-TheTeenGirl
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