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the guy that I liked invited me to his party but I said no
16/F, I was talking to the guy that I liked and he started laughing at me when he found out that I don't drink and I've never had a boyfriend. He invited me to his party but I turned his invitation down cause I just didn't feel comfortable with the drinking, snobby ppl from my school and everything else . I felt that I really made a bad impression and just because I've never had a boyfriend and I don't drink alcohol, does this make me seem bad? and was it okay that I said no to him?
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It is DEFINITELY okay that you said no to him.
These days, there are far too many people who will happily drink underage and go to parties with people who will be doing goodness knows what and most of the time, they do it just to fit in.
But why should you put yourself in a situation you aren't comfortable in, with a guy who laughs at you just because you don't follow the herd with the other people?
The important thing here is you know your own mind. You know what you do and don't want and even better, you don't do things you don't want to just because other people think it's cool.
It doesn't matter that you have never had a boyfriend. There's no obligation to have one by the time you're 16 and if no guy that you want to date comes along, why should you go out with someone else?
I didn't start drinking until I turned 18 and although I was made fun of for it and even though I didn't go to any parties where a lot of my friends got drunk and stoned, I feel much better for not having gone along with it. If you don't feel comfortable in a situation, you shouldn't feel compelled to get involved because a few mindless people think that being sensible is laughable.
Forget whether it's a good impression or a bad impression because if they can laugh at you for making your own decisions based on your own beliefs, they're probably not worth worrying about being friends with in the first place.
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You did the right tihng turning down the party invite. The guy made fun of you for not having a boyfriend and for not drinking? Hes a loser. Many girls havent had a boyfriend because they havent found the "right" guy i guess, you shouldnt be ashamed of that. And not drinking is such a good thing. Seriously, your crush is a LOSER lol. Be proud of who you are =D
-beckss
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Your crush stinks. It's fine that you've never had a boyfriend, and its good that you dont drink. Forget about this dude, and you might have made a wrong impression to him, but not a bad one. More like a sophisticated one that he cant handle.
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I think it's absolutely okay that you said no to him. Be proud of yourself for sticking to your values and not changing yourself for someone like that.
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I would of done the same exact thing..This guy seems like an asshole..[In my opinion].. To sit there && make fun of somebody about something that isn`t a big deal && way smarter then them is very shallow && childish..
Sayin NO about going is okay if you don`t want to go..But i think you can always have fun at parties without drinkin && drugs && defiantly without a guy..
So if you change your mind you still can have fun sweetie..
Also your not a bad person for not a having a boyfriend or ever had one..
♥Dez
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You did the right thing! In the long run, I think he will like and respect you more... especially since you said no it will make you more desirable and if he's interested in you he'll come around and treat you respectfully since you have already drawn your line in the sand. Good move Chick!
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That was rude of him.
I'm happy to hear that you didn't buckle under the peer pressure. More young people should have your attitude.
There may be some who will tease you about it. I don't think standing up for what you believe in would leave a bad impression though.
I think you did the right thing. You should never
do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. Even if it is with a guy you like. :)
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