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how to talk to shy guy
i have a huge crush on this guy and i think he knows it..but i managed to get his no. via email.
The problem is he 's sooo shy when i call him and he tries to avoid me. If he doesnt like me, he could just say so but he doesn.
He's perfectly fine with answering my emails on work until i asked him a small little question ie. Do you go for basketball games? and he just went shy. OMG.
Does this mean he's insecured or he has a serious problem in talking about himself?
Or maybe he's just too self conscious or rarely gets any attention from girls?
How am i suppose to talk to him again when i call him
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Your right, if he didn't like you he would have said something but he hasint. So, I think he's just a little shy on the phone because he's nervous and doesn't know what to talk about. And in the emails, he's not shy until you say something about going out, or hint that you want to go out with him.
He might be insecure, but he also might be nervous as heck because he can't believe that your talking to him. (I'm saying it in a good way)
I dont think you should call him right away, instead see him in person. At work, dont email him...go up to him and strike up a conversation. (When you can, I know it's work...but hopefully you can still talk to eachother) He'll be shy, and you might be nervous but its the only way to break the ice. Then later that night you could call him or email him, possibly talking about your previous conversation [ If it was intresting =) ] And after a while the conversations will be easier to handle, both online & in person.
When both of you have the communicating part down, where you both feel comfortable talking and all...then you can start asking him about "going out". Because he knows you now, and is not as shy. Do this however you want- basketball games, lunch, maybe you should pick something he likes to do? His favorite restraunt, his favorite sport, to get him more into what you guys are doing.
I really think he likes you, he's just scared for his life because your actually taking intrest and he doesn't know how to react. So it's up to you -- break the ice and make him feel comfortable around you. This might take weeks, months, hopefully not years....but in the end it will be worth it when *crosses fingers* you'll be in a realtionship together =)
If you have no idea what to talk about when you need to strike up a convo, here's some advicenator links that might help you out:
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I have no idea if I helped, hopefully I did. But i'd really like to see what happens so if you have the time -- send me something to my inbox and tell me whats up! =)
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