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how to talk to this shy guy
I know this ex-colleague of mine but not really that close to him. I think i have a crush on him but i dont really know if he likes me at all.
He's confident, witty and a workaholic.
However, he gets shy/uncomfortable, when i ask him simple personal questions for eg: Do you go for swimming. I think he has a problem of talking about himself to new people or just not that friendly.
So one day, i gave him some sweets via his secretary (i didnt really know him that well at that time in office) and he was quite startled and stared at me and waited for me to say something when i bumped at him at the doorway.
He had those puppy eyes..but didnt say word!.
I pretended not to appear interested in him becos i was too shy.!
Later, i sent him email and was able to chat with him about work..and he responded quite well except that when i asked him for lunch, he just disappeared and dint reply yes/no.,,which was kind of weird.He could have said no.
I managed to obtain his cellphone and he replies all my sms except the ones on personal questions.
So how do i even talk to him tru the phone as a friend, if he's that shy since i dont really see him anymore in office?
How do i get him to even talk to me like a normal friend?
Would appreciate your advice.
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It could be that this guy is shy, or it could also be that he has a hard time trusting others and his personal life isn't that great. Maybe he has personal problems or health problems that he is trying to hide. Maybe he is a closeted homosexual or maybe he is married or has a girlfriend already. Maybe he lives with dysfunctional parents. Maybe he is much poorer than you or maybe he has a fear of water that makes it so he can't get into a pool. Who knows? I think he does have trust issues though. Try asking him to lunch in person and see what happens. If he refuses, or acts awkward, I would just let him go and find someone else to hang out with.
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Kittzen helping,
Listen i know it seems like he's shy, but its not just that it seems to me like he really likes you. if's just way to shy to give love a shot. what you need to do is get to his best friend, watch them both see how he respons to a one on one friend to friend guy on guy thing than you try to do the same with him.
Also try catching a late work assissment with him, like maybe just an assissment where you both are working on it and than you order a pizza and sit down together. this might bring out his calm side and also it migh tell you if he likes you to or if he just wants to be friends.
Try these they may help you or you migh in the process of tring them find you own way to get this guy to talk to you.
let me know how it goes,
Kittzen
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