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how to talk to this shy guy
I know this ex-colleague of mine but not really that close to him. I think i have a crush on him but i dont really know if he likes me at all.
He's confident, witty and a workaholic.
However, he gets shy/uncomfortable, when i ask him simple personal questions for eg: Do you go for swimming. I think he has a problem of talking about himself to new people or just not that friendly.
So one day, i gave him some sweets via his secretary (i didnt really know him that well at that time in office) and he was quite startled and stared at me and waited for me to say something when i bumped at him at the doorway.
He had those puppy eyes..but didnt say word!.
I pretended not to appear interested in him becos i was too shy.!
Later, i sent him email and was able to chat with him about work..and he responded quite well except that when i asked him for lunch, he just disappeared and dint reply yes/no.,,which was kind of weird.
I managed to obtain his cellphone and he replies all my sms except the ones on personal questions.
So how do i even talk to him tru the phone as a friend, if he's that shy?
How do i get him to even talk to me like a normal friend?
Would appreciate your advice.
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The best advice I can give you is to be patient. Try to take it a little slower. My guess is that he doesn't know how to talk to girls and you're scaring him. Lots of guys are like this. Try to steer away from the personal stuff right now. He's not ready for that yet. Friends don't always know about each other's personal lives. It's probably pretty obvious to him that you like him too. That could be what the problem is. If he can't even be friends with a girl he must be completely terrified about a relationship. I'll bet that he thinks that that is what you are after. Really stress the fact that you just want to be friends. He's not going to be a "normal" friend right away. He needs a lot of time to get used to the idea. Give him that time and it should work out. Good luck!
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well he might like you more than just a friend, and hes afraid to tell you. maybe he thinks avoiding you will make it go away..i know it sounds weird but thats how a guy i knew was. he was afraid that i wasnt going to like him like he did so he just tried to stop so he stopped talking to me.
maybe you should just try and talk to him and found out how he feels. that might make things even more weird but its worth a try.
you should ask him in person if hed like to do something..like get lunch go to a movie etc. so you guys can just talk and do friend things..
thas really all i can think of. let me know if you have anymore questions
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