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heart broken but still loving..
hey, I'm looking for some good advice because I basically don't what to do anymore. I recently got dumped by this guy. I really loved him, it wasn't one of those "fake" loves as you might call it. I really was and still am in love with him, I would give anything and do anything for him. He did love me at one point too and he claims he doesn't know why he stopped. He thinks that it could be that I took him for granted or was unappreciative and that I hurt him. But I never even knew I was doing any of this, and if I had known I would have tried my hardest to fix the problem. I'm so confused and I've tried almost everything, and now I'm lost. My friends say that I should just move on, but I don't want to give up because I just have this gut feeling that he will come back. One reason being that I don't believe some one can just stop loving within a couple of days. And the reason he stopped loving me so quickly wasn't because he didn't love me in the first place, because he really did. So, I don't know if I should keep hoping and holding on and waiting or give up and try to move on. Advice would be much appreciated!
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well how about you do both.... wait for someone to come to you. to me that means that if they do they want to be with you more then u want to be with them. and the chance of you getting hurt when you and that person break up is less because they found you.. and well it just seems that way. to you im not sure? in the meantime untill that boy comes just wait for your ex. your totally right, he didnt have no reason to break up with you. just dont be to hard on yourself because in this situation be proud that you can say it was his lose. i believe that yor were really in love with that boy because i was in love once. and well it didnt work out and now i found someone new. so if it comes to it i know you probably can.
sure youll probably cry. you probably have been, but in the end it will all be ok. dont feel bad for the nothing you did. but then again if he finds someone else there is still a little tiny chance of him coming back to you, because he might think "o well this girl isnt working out, i should of stayed with the person i loved" ! but i wouldnt wait around for him unless you are that desperate or in that much love with him.
just dont be the only one moving on if he does..
hope i helped.
love kayla
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Write him a letter.
Pour out your heart and put everything in there you want to tell him.
How much you care, what he means to you, how you feel without him, what you would change if you were to try again. Everything.
Its much easier to talk to someone when they aren't interrupting you. :)
Give it to him and hope for the best. If it does nothing to change his feelings...then you move on.
Hope it works for you. :)
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Hmm...Talk to the guy. Tell him everything you just wrote up there, really all of it. Let him know that you would be willing to try again and do better and everything. Ask him to forgive you and give you another chance.
Now it could just be that he is saying that to... give into pressure from other people; he was unsure of the relationship to begin with; gradually lost interest and is using that as an excuse to not make him look like the bad one; he's interested in somebody else, etc. I don't know which one it could be, but you need to talk to him and find out.
So see whats up. Let him know how you feel and ask him how he feels, and be honest. If it doesn't seem like he will give you another chance, then before going after somebody else you should try to get over what happened and him and all of that. I know it is rough and not easy, but if you were to rush yourself into another relationship, then it might just lead to conflicting emotions. Hope that helped and good luck.
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