|
Uncaring friend
My bestfriend of 7 years has really annoyed me lately (16/f). A couple weeks ago I was not invited to go get icecream-her idea-with her and two other girls-basically our "group" minus me. And tonight after a tennis tournament (I am on varsity 1 and played yesterday and the other girls played today for varsity 2) they planned on going home, showering and what not and then going out to eat. I was not invited. I saw on one of my friends away message "shower and out to eat with my tennis girls!". I imed my bff (she had an away message of 'in the shower' and i said "Hey when you get out call me! I want icecream! Maybe you me amanda and nadine?" About 20-30 minutes later she calls and says "Hey i got your message, but we're going out to eat do you want to come?". So here's where my question is. I was mad/hurt for not being already invited since she is my bestfriend and I was just an afterthought and was only invited because I asked about icecream. And it wasn't as if they had just gotten back from the tournament and just hadn't called, they were about to leave. Am I acting bitchy or is it understood? There are other things that have happened to make me doubt that I should be friends with her. She seems flakey and selfish. Advice?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
REVENGE. invite some other close friends to spend the night then laugh about it during school the next week w/ ur buddies. when she gets upset and confronts you then just tell her that that is how hurt you felt when she didn't include you
]
You are either not telling us the whole story because it seems wierd for a best friend of seven years to act this way or she is trying to have some space.
It seems like if she didn't want to be your friend anymore she wouldn't have invited you at all.
]
I think the easiest thing to do is ask your friend what's up. Don't be confrontational about it. Just be like I've noticed lately that you don't invite me to hang out with you, and other girls from tennis? Is it intentional? And if you want throw in a guilt trip like did I do something wrong? I mean I'd never hurt you on purpose.
Hopefully she'll come around, give you an explanation, or start inviting you.
Or you could try doing the same thing to her. Go out with other friends and bring up how much fun you had. She'll probably get the point.
]
hm. toughy. try being super nice to her. guilt trip style. if she doesnt start acting better.... ditch her.
]
More Questions: |