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I want to break up with my boyfriend in a way. I do because we spend way to much time together and he eventually gets annoying. But I know I wold be jealous if I seen him with other girls and it will make it hard because we go to school together, work together, and yeah. But I don't want to hurt him but he will probably be a butt about wanting to still be friends. He doesn't drive and I always have to kinda haul him around. What should I do? I will rate high!
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Ok.. Well.. I kinda feel the same way except I have the opposite problem. My b/f never has time for me nor I for him because our schedules seem to always conflict but we really enjoy ourselves when we are together, but what you need to do is just be like, "Hey, I feel like chilling alone tonight. I need some 'me' time." I'm sure he'll understand & if he doesn't, you didnt need him in the 1st place. But even if you dont want to break up with him, make him break up with you or something.. but then there's the issue of you still wanting 2 be friends with him. Just tell him. Tell him you think you're getting 2 close & you wanna back off for a lil while.. take a break for a little while. Sorry this is so long.. Hope it helped at least a little!
XoXo, Stephanie
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Instead of breaking up with him, why don't you try to work out a compromise? Tell him that you've been struggling with a lot of stuff lately and you need a little space. If you spend a lot of time together, my guess is there are going to be opportunities to cut back on that. So maybe try to only see him 2-3 times a week for a while and then make a decision whether you want to be with him at all any more.
If, on the other hand, you know you would be happier to just end it, try to be gentle. He's bound to not be too pleased about trying to still be friends because he cares a lot about you and this will probably be hard for him. Just explain to him you don't think the relationship is working any more and you need to go your separate ways. You can add in the bit about being friends if you like but only if you really want to continue your friendship. Most of all, reassure him that he's a great guy and that any other girl would be lucky to go out with him. That way, you're breaking up with him but giving him an injection of self-esteem too.
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Well since your the one who drives, how about you take a break from each other, see each other outside of school and work maybe once a week, cut down on the quality time so you dont get annoyed, and it`ll let you be able to miss him, making your relationship stronger. If you know your going to get jealous, then you still like/love him & want to be with him, so dont go taking it to the extremes jussttt yet. Try the break. =D
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I've had this sort of problem before. Is it kind of like he is really attached to you? Maybe, you could sugguest to him that the two of you establish some days where you can just have some "me time" or time for friends. This way, you wouldn't really be breaking up with him, just slowing it down. Just talk to him and make sure he knows that you have other friends and family that you need to be spending time with too. I'm sure he does too.
Hope I helped!
-Johanna
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I think it would help your relationship if you two didnt work together. Most people start to annoy you if you spend too much time with them, even your best friends. So maybe it could work.
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