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when is enough?
well lets see...i love my gf to death and thats how all guys should be. lately we broke up but we said we love eachother so we were still going out unoficially. I was doing everything i can for her i was like too selfless i guess. she told me to try not to luv her because she doesnt want to be hurt so i rip a part of my heart out for her and i do that. just asking how can i change and i guess this sounds weird but be a little more selfish because i cant. she has to be happy or im not thats the catch.
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hehehe all sounds to familiar man. what i would do is just try your best to show her what your doing and if she doesnt respect it then you dont have time for her. from some experience ill bet shes gonna lie to you then and find a new bf the next day who will ultimatley ruin your friendship with your ex. well good luck to yah man. hope it helps.
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Okay, the issue here is hers. Not yours. She's the one that's afraid to be hurt. You've gotta convince her that you're not going to hurt her.
I had a similar problem, but it was more of a trust issue than a fear issue. It was my issue, though, not my boyfriend's. He didn't, however, try to convince me that he was trustworthy by tearing himself apart in the process. He just told me I had two options - I could just assume he was like all the other guys I've dated and wasn't wort trusting, and over time I'd see that it wasn't the case. Or, I could just accept the fact that he was different and come to realize that I'd put my trust in the right person - and left it to me to decide between them.
I chose the second option, once he put it like that. If he had the nerve to insist that he was so different, maybe he was.
He made it my decision, and it made sense to me.
You can't help it if you love her and she needs to realize that. She also needsd to stop shutting you out, which is exactly what she's doing. I suggest you stop trying to fix everything yourself, and help her realize that she has a problem. Let her decide what to do.
If she continues to push you away, then she's going to screw the relationship over.
As I said, you really can't do anything at this point. You've tried a lot, you've shown that you're willing to do a lot to make her happy, but the one thing you haven't tried is letting HER fix it.
Since she is the one with the problem here, I would give her the chance instead of trying to fix it yourself. Never change yourself for someone else. If you change, change for you.
Good luck!
-Siren =)
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She's not happy now when you're being too selfless...so therefore you shouldn't be happy.
She's happy when you're being mor selfish...so therefore, be selfish, be happy. Spend more time on yourself. Work out. Something. Read alot. Not sure. Do time-consuming things that involve yourself.
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same thing happend to me but it was the dude who told me that i need to try not to lov him it hurt because he what he wassaying is i dont love you any more so you need to move on so i went to the next best thing i dated his best friend so he could see that i had moved on but they guy started to date my best friend so it is up to you how you change maybe you just need to date some one else to get over her or tell her how you really feel like every thing how you feel dont keep any thing back
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hey well personally i think that if you still truely love each other going out once again offically is worth the risk of gettting hurt. if your not willing to do that then find a happy medium aka compremise. cait ♥
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