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They used to be my friends...
there are these two girls who i used to be really good friends with but now all they care about is themselves. i was just at the mall and it was really bad i was crying and everything but they didn't even care about me and that upsets me a lot. i've told them what they do when they're together and sometimes they apologize and tell me they'll be nicer but then other times they tell me that i'm wrong and that they don't act like that. a lot of my other friends feel the same way but are too scared to say anything. how do i get them to change or should i just drop them as friends?
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you dont have to drop them all the way ..... you can be there friend just not best friend because i dont find them really being a "friend" if they dont care about you. when someone says sorry ....that dont give them the right to do it again its omost like a promise that they will try to not do it again. and i dont see this happenings with them.... it will be ok just live life to the fullest!! hope this helps!
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i think you should drop them, i had friends like that in high school and they turned their back at me cuase i thought diffrently, now we're ok friends cuase they saw through the immatureaty of their ways. if people like that are doing this to you then tell them; " If you're going to act like this, then forget it, you don't deserve to be my friends ." then leave, they wont care but then later on they'll come back crying back saying they're sorry and just say no. The point that im getting is that just forget them and get new friends and stand up, say what a bitch they are and leave, people who lead their own life, become leaders.
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It's a sad fact that as people get older they often can change into people completely different from the ones we knew. It sounds like this is what has happened here.
It's not necessarily that they mean to treat you like this because unfortunately, some people do become very self involved as they grow up. However, the fact that you say a lot of your other friends feel the same way indicates that perhaps they don't act this way while being totally oblivious to the fact they're hurting people. In fact, maybe it is that they are doing it deliberately because it makes them feel better.
Really the only option you have here is to make the most of the real friends you do have and let go of the ones who are what I would call 'fairweather friends'. If they can treat you like that then they aren't worthing having around in the first place and you could do a lot better and have a lot more fun with people who treat you as a real friend.
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Hmm, it sounds like you are more their friends they they are yours. Find a way to talk to both of them at a moment where you aren't at the mall or with other people and ask them if they are your friends. Ask them to take your feelings into consideration and everyone else too. Give it some time and if they agree to doing better, but don't change, then try to move on. I mean it does happen that as you get older the same group of friends you started out with and were great friends with just go seperate ways. Does it have to happen? Not really, but it is possible. That doesn't necessarily mean that there is something wrong with you. If it doesn't seem like they do want to be your friend and don't change, then why pursue it? Even if you have been great friends before, that isn't always a guarantee that they will help you out when you need it. So give them a chance, and if things don't work out, then don't stress yourself over it. If they wouldn't be willing to change if you asked them to, then would they really be worth it? Hope that helped and good luck.
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