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First Time
Ok, I'm about to have sex for the first time. I've been waiting for ages and I am prepared now. My boyfriend has had sex before a few times so I need a little help on stuff:
a. Is there going to be a lot of blood?
b. Is it going to hurt? (My friend told me it hurt like a mother- through the whole thing on her first time)
c. Is there anything I should know? I know I'm not going to be that great but I don't want to look stupid.
d. What should I do once it's over?
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a. no dime sized amount
b. yes
c. just be careful
d. talk to him? make out? uh. lame question
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a)generally there is some blood but not a lot
b)it can hurt and there aren't any ways that i know of to make it not hurt
c) use a condom
d) compliment him on his skills as a partner
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well if you are ready you should know but i think you are just nervious so just try to think about somthing other then the pain and sometimes there is blood not all the time
I hope I helped
Jessica
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a) no blood at all. that shouldn't be a problem
b) it might hurt at first but once you start it won't be as bad.. it will start to feel good
c) just be sure that you know birth control might prevent pregnancy, but not STDs.
d) when you're done, you should just take it easy.. after all, you might be tired ;o) hope i helped!
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jamziix16
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♥ I myself was in a situation not to long ago. I was scared to death for my first time but it really wasnt that bad.
a. no .. not alot if any at all. I didn't bleed the first time. Nor did a few of my friends. You might or might not. If so not alot.
b. It does hurt in the begining. For one being tence about it doesnt help. Once you relax youll be okay and enjoy it more. It just hurts in the begining the first few times you have sex.
c. Just relax and tell your boyfriend if hes hurting you or doing something you don't like.
d. well .. lol i always go to the bathroom to cleanup or to fix my hair or something.
After its over ... get dressed and continue your day! lol
goodluck!
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Hey hun..
Here are my answers to your questions k..
a..There shouldn`t be alot of blood.. Just a little bit..
b..Depends on how you handle pain but it might not be that comfortable the first time.. In my opinion it didn`t hurt that bad..
c..Def. use protection like your ready to be doing.. For your first time i`d let him be in control..
d..Once its over he should hold you in my opinion.. ♥ Dez
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a) There may be some blood or there may be none. It varies by the woman. The blood comes from the breaking of your hymen. Some women who are active or who have fell a certain way may have broken their hymen in the past and probably won't bleed.
b) This again depends on the woman and the situation. If you're relaxed and you take things slow, you may have little or no pain. I've spoken with other women who have said it was very painful to them.
c) There's no set schedule for what you do when. It's more instinct and going with the flow. If your boyfriend knows it's your first time, he'll be more likely to take it slow and let you know what he wants.
d) I would suggest using the restroom afterwards. When your body comes into contact with a foreign object, even another person's body, there is a chance of bacteria being introduced. By emptying your bladder afterwards and cleaning up, it will help to get rid of this bacteria so it doesn't make you sick later. Also, you may feel more comfortable if you shower afterwards.
I'm glad to hear that you've thought this through and have taken the necessary precautions to protect yourself.
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It depends on the person. I thought there would be a lot of blood but I actually didn't bleed. Have a towel or something underneath you that you don't mind having stained just in case.
It hurt me incredibly bad the first time. I suggest that you take advil about a half hour beforehand and use KY jelly or something. You probably know this by now, but make sure there is a lot of foreplay and that you are relaxed and turned on, or else you'll be tensed up and dry and that just makes it 10x more painful.
You won't look stupid. He should understand that it's your first time and you're perfectly allowed to just lie there writhing in pain (if there is a lot for you). You're not going to be good, or anywhere near good your first time, so don't even try to be...don't try to go out of your comfort zone to impress him.
Once it's over? I don't know. Relax, or shower, if there's a mess.
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OK well about the blood, you'll never really know for sure, everybody's different. Some people don't bleed till a few hours later, other's bleed right at that moment. I didn't bleed at all (I wasn't sure if it had gotten in deep enough lol)
Same thing with pain, it's going to varie, it may hurt a little, it may hurt a lot. I only felt a bit of tightness, and that was all.
As to what you should do, just let yourself go, if your boyfriend knows you're a virgin, it's great, he'll tell you if he wants you to do something in a specific way. But for the most part, just go with it, it kind of comes instinctively to us if you don't worry about it. Most importantly use protection (good to hear you have that cover), and have fun!
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