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Friends forever?
My best friend really has changed. We both moved into this new neighborhood, me a bit before her. I was very shy, and she wasnt. I was her firt friend here, and soon we became best friends. Thnx to her I started going out more, and we made a lot of friends in the park and stuff. But lately she's been leaving me out. She calls me to go to the park, and as soon as we get der, and she sees the guy she likes she ditches me. She's changed, and lately I've been feeling like she uses me only when she needs me. And I've told her, but she still doesnt change.I was never good at interacting, so she changed me for the good. And I've become kinda dependant on her. Now I feel like if I was blind, then they give me the gift of sight, then they take it away.It just sucks that she's starting to ignore me when I've become to used to her.And I dont know if I should just move on like she's apparently doing.
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wow im am so sry. i personally think you should move on apparently she has made a rep around your school. and she doesnt need you anymore as someone to hang on. she needs you when she wants something and she cant get it without your help.i know you need her but trust me youll come across someone way better and in need, hope i helped. plz send feedback
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People never stay the same.
I went through something very similar with my friend. 2 years ago we were inseperable. We helped eachother combat our weaknesses, we shared everything... it was great. And then she started going off with other people. I felt extremely left out, as if she only made time to see me when others were busy. I really didn't know if we'd ever be friends again. Like you, I talked to her but she denied it. This year though, she's found the happy medium. We're good friends again, but we spend enough time apart so we're not dependant on eachothers company.
You have to move on and start making new friends of your own. Don't leave her though, because hopefully she'll realise that leaving you out like that was a really foolish thing to do as good friends are really hard to find.
Don't get too down about it. If she changes again and realises that she's being stupid then that's fantastic. If not, it's her loss.
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Well, you were her first friend, but now she has a bunch of newer friends that she likes more. You can't really do much about it, sorry. If she's not going to respect you now, not a whole lot is due to change.
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Okay, I've got 2 approaches to this. Both SHOULD benefit you, but i cant promise anything. Oh, and there is the approach you have been trying. It's called dealing with it. But I wouldn't reccomend it, I mean, really, wut ur friend is doing is wrong. Lets go on 2 the other ones. Lets call your friend X for a bit, just so it is a bit easier. Okay, X has been ditching u in the park. This is evil, but this approach will either ween her from her doings, or rendor her defenseless. Before she gets the chance to ditch u, ditch her for a change. Decide to meet another friend, or make new ones. Leave her in the park for once. Even try a couple of times. She might get mad at you, or you might lose her, but if you cant change her ways, then she isnt worth having. Now, X might try to dump you, so you will have to watch what you are doing. If you think she is going to jump your piece, jump hers first. If you want the end to benefit for you, drop her. But to keep your concience clear, be nice, and give her detailed reasons. Also, make sure to mention that you gave her multiple chances in proving herself worthy, which she blew. These should benefit you, for they have benefitted people in the past, and your case isnt much different. I hope things work out for you!
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Well, if i was you I'd suprise her. I'd go out and become even more social than her. First i'd confront her and talk to her, find out her deal. If you do not agree with her then just go out grab someone you know or dont know and start socializing. Just dont do anything crazy.
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The problem with having friensd is, they change. Whether you like it or not, your friends are going to change and leave you out occasionally. I know it sucks, but that's how life is. Tell her about it, and tell her you don't like it when she does that. If it doesn't make her change, then find a new bestfriend.
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that always happens..you become so good of friends with someone and then its all done and over .. well you two prob just grew apart and she i guess picked guys over you which was the wrong thing to do but im sure that you can become that close to someone else and not grow apart as fast as you two did ♥
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You didn't mention how old you are -- but friends can grow apart, especially when you're young and still changing. It sounds like your friend has grown apart from you. You have to decide if the relationship is worth saving. Do you have other friends, or can you make them? If I were you I would do one of two things.
1. Have a serious talk about the problem with your friend and go from there.
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2. Try to find other friends and hang out with them, and other interests and hobbies to take up your time.
Your friend may come back to you after a time, but if she doesn't, she should not be your only option for company.
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