Hey, Im just like a lot of you. I love helping out people, and giving advice is cool. I love it when people write, dear askannette,
blah,blah,blah,
signed,
whatever, like confoozed
so please, trust me, im in it to help you! confide in askannette,
by the way, if askannette is 2 long, you can call me M.J.
Member Since: December 21, 2005
Answers: 10
Last Update: December 21, 2005
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okayy i have 90$ to spend on christmas presents for 3 girls and 3 boys. The girls i have picked out already and that leaves me with about 40$. This one guy jimmy, i like a real lot and i was thinking of gettin him a 24$ calonge from abercrombie so thats 26$ left. i don't know what i can get my other two friends.
Luke- he's a skater, he's funny, likes sugars and candies and even though he's 13 hes pretty much loving in a 8 year old attitude. like he gets excited over stupid things and the other guy, Tyler if pretty much the same way only hes not a skater i dont know what i can get either of then with 26$ so if anyone had ideas i'd appreciate them so much!
- ill rate if you answer
Thank you,
Alisha (link)
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I'd recommend a dollar store. A lot of guys like the ones you are talking about like tiny stuff, like funny key chains and stuff. Tiny stuff that costs less than two dollars. Like pins from
Hot Topic. Just stuff like that, in a little bag would suit them i guess..........
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M.J.
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okay my arm is freaky I have eczima but on the inside of my arms and a little ouside is completely snow white and the outside is a nice tan. I don't know what to do to get rid of the white spot. I can never wear any short sleeves because of it. It really pisses me off. Oh by the way is there any natural way to make eczema go away forever. thanks (link)
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no, they haven't found a cure, as far as I know.........
You should probably see a docter, because that spot could be a number of things!
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M.J. (askannette)
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hey i'm a guy. this girl i know is starting to scare me. we used to talk about everything and always have a blast, but a few months ago we started to talk less. i noticed she wasn't as active as she was before, and asked her about it. just as it seemed to be, she told me she was depressed and didn't like the kind of life she was living. she went on about all the bad things in her life with family, school, friends, herself, etc. i tried to point out good things to her, but she always came back at me with something to disprove it. after not talking for a week or so, she said she just wanted to end her life and to get away from everything. i didn't take this too serious at first, but lately she hasn't been eating, barely talks, and hasn't been looking too healthy. if she is thinking about suicide, what should i do? i asked her about it and she didn't want to talk. should i tell her parents? please help (link)
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YES,YES,YES! She might hate you, but you do have to tell someone! There are so many great things about life. You can't let her end her life. Bring her out and do stuff. Bring her out to try new things, new types of food. If she rejects, then you will definitely HAVE to report her to authorities. She needs professional help!
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M.J. (askannette)
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Hi There,
I am a English male of Part Jewish non orthodox & Part COE (Church Of England) Blood, and am in love with a Muslim girl from Saudi Arabia. Even thou she isn't in an arranged marriage & her parents have given their blessing to a marriage of her choice providing the groom is an Arab or Muslim, I understand that the only way I would be allowed to Marry this girl is either me turning to Islam or by Mahr, as I am non religous I am very confused on what to do. I am deeply in love with this girl & want to provide her with the love she deserves.
Any advice you can give would be surley appreactied.
JR
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Well, it seems very obvious on what you should do. If you are enough of in love with this girl, you would do anything for her. Im a girl, and my opinion is that it seems pretty obvious that you will have to change for this girl. So islam or by mahr is definitely the option you are looking for!
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I am a 20-year-old woman and have a friend of eight years whom I'm trying to break it off with. She calls me her "best" friend but lately I've realized I don't even like her -- I mostly stay with her out of habit. I mean, she is an okay person and I wish her the best, but I'm not especially fond of her and I'm tired of having to support her and let her cry on my shoulder all the time (this happens a lot, as she has a rough life and some issues with depression and cutting). She also has a tendency to get angry over very small things, and after I had to apologize for the 100th time for making some little remark which would not have offended anyone but her, I realized I didn't want to be friends anymore -- I am not getting enough out of the relationship for what I put in. I thought I could "lose touch" with her and the relationship could die a natural death, so I've avoided her for a month, not returned calls and so on. But she has come to me and demanded to know why I am acting this way.
If I tell her the truth -- that I'm not angry but don't want to talk her -- she'll never believe that. If I tell her I don't like her behavior (getting mad so easily etc), she will apologize and promise to change, I will get softhearted and forgive her, then after a few weeks she'll get mad at me again for no reason and round and round we go. (I know because this has happened before.) How do I resolve this without (A) deeply hurting her or (B) leaving me stuck in a friendship that does nothing for me? (link)
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I cant promise anything, but ive got something. the kind of person youre dealing with is called a CLINGY person. My simple advice is this, listen to my complex advice!
1.) she desperately needs a therapist, and she'll hate you at first for even recommending something like this, but it could save her life!
2.) She needs to find new friends that have stuff in common with her. Bring somebody over that will connect with her, but wont recommend suicide or anything.
3.) hopefully she'll connect with this person enough to give you a break, and cry on her new friend's shoulder
Im glad that you gave me enough information to give you what I had 2 give u. I hope it works!
signed,
M.J. (askannette)
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well, last weekend I thought life couldnt get worse, but monday, a little before lunch, it did.
I was chatting with who i thought was my best friend, she said that she didnt feel the same. I thought we had something special. I was sad, then angry, then sad, then angry again, and ive been sad like since i stopped being angry again. About two days later, I asked a question to this friend asking for her advice on my situation, then I chatted with another friend {who is a girl} and linked her to the question, she told me that telling my thought was best friend that i understand why she might feel that way{and i do}, i did, i dont think it helped. Later I asked a question for finding a website that talks about girls, and tells guys things that they need to know about girls.
I have this feeling like I want to forget about her, but i dont {kinda relates to the cant live with'em, cant live without'em saying}. I have been sendig her multiple friend requests on the site where she, and i have a blog. It seems like she wants to forget about me too, but she says differently.
I will give fives for exelent advice. (link)
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Okay, i hope im right, but i cant promise anything. by the way, please read this before leaving, i relate to you, and elaborate on things longer than i should, but i give good advice in the long run. Ok, your friend seems like she was pretty close, so you have to be pretty upset. I reccomend either one of two things. Try to do your best and make new friends. I know it will be hard to get close to another friend again, but if they are loyal, it will feel so good to have someone to confide in! Another thing would be to take up a hobby, or start going to a safe and healthy club. This is another way to make friends. You'll need new friends to get over the old ones. In time, you will find that these new friends should help you out. In due time, you will forget about the old friend you had. If she decides to come back, i wouldn't let her. she had a chance, and she blew it, so she needs to realize that she had a great friend, and now it is lost.
I appologize if i called a friend of yours a girl, or anything like that.
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M.J. (askannette)
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my mom can be such a pain. But so can i! I am really sensitive, and cry ALOT! but she doesn't help. She just yells at me and makes it worse! I love my mom, but my sense of pride makes me not want to give in to her. I dont want to ruin my relationship with my mom, but I want to be independant, and have some dignity. my mom has been coming at me constantly!
please, what should i do?
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Confoozed-age 15, im a girl (link)
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dear confoozed,
i luv answering letters! thanx,
now, down to work,
you and your mom need to repair your relationship, and i mean it as in acting like adults. Pick a good time to talk to her when she is not cranky, has the time, and you talk in private. Bring up your feelings in a calm matter. DO NOT RUSH, gushing will not help the matter. Trust me, my mom didn't just feel like the big bad wolf, and started hating herself. She got defensive, and claimed that i started the problem. Women are like that! You need to be calm, and admit that you have had part in the problem. No one has a bad relationship just because of one person! If there is a problem with spending time with one another, or you are worried about the other, or it just seems to be that she is tired and worn out. You can fix it! It doesn't help with Christmas around the corner, and all the stress. Be come and keep your claws in around the holiday season. Don't attack her right after. Let her repair the damage the holidays have done, and then bring it up slowly, offering peace. Don't beg for it, because that is when you will feel that you have lost your pride. She wont want to lose it either. Hopefully you will be able to get through this hard time. Good luck!
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My best friend really has changed. We both moved into this new neighborhood, me a bit before her. I was very shy, and she wasnt. I was her firt friend here, and soon we became best friends. Thnx to her I started going out more, and we made a lot of friends in the park and stuff. But lately she's been leaving me out. She calls me to go to the park, and as soon as we get der, and she sees the guy she likes she ditches me. She's changed, and lately I've been feeling like she uses me only when she needs me. And I've told her, but she still doesnt change.I was never good at interacting, so she changed me for the good. And I've become kinda dependant on her. Now I feel like if I was blind, then they give me the gift of sight, then they take it away.It just sucks that she's starting to ignore me when I've become to used to her.And I dont know if I should just move on like she's apparently doing. (link)
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Okay, I've got 2 approaches to this. Both SHOULD benefit you, but i cant promise anything. Oh, and there is the approach you have been trying. It's called dealing with it. But I wouldn't reccomend it, I mean, really, wut ur friend is doing is wrong. Lets go on 2 the other ones. Lets call your friend X for a bit, just so it is a bit easier. Okay, X has been ditching u in the park. This is evil, but this approach will either ween her from her doings, or rendor her defenseless. Before she gets the chance to ditch u, ditch her for a change. Decide to meet another friend, or make new ones. Leave her in the park for once. Even try a couple of times. She might get mad at you, or you might lose her, but if you cant change her ways, then she isnt worth having. Now, X might try to dump you, so you will have to watch what you are doing. If you think she is going to jump your piece, jump hers first. If you want the end to benefit for you, drop her. But to keep your concience clear, be nice, and give her detailed reasons. Also, make sure to mention that you gave her multiple chances in proving herself worthy, which she blew. These should benefit you, for they have benefitted people in the past, and your case isnt much different. I hope things work out for you!
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There's a guy at my college whom I know and like really well. We have a lot in common (read the same kind of books, etc) and can have long conversations. Problem, though: he deals in chemicals of the illicit kind. And not just on the side -- he does it for a living. I don't have any moral problems with drugs, though I don't use them myself and none of my friends do -- not even the drug dealer, he just sells them. It's just that I'm afraid I will have a taint by association problem. In fact, I sort of already have -- the campus housing people searched my room for drugs once, simply because he had been in it. (They found nothing of course, since I use nothing. He thought it was very amusing, but I was annoyed.) Is it worth it to stay friends with the dude, since I like him so much, or should I cool off? (link)
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I know you think this person is cool, and you have alot in common, but, if he does drugs, then it ain't cool to hang out with people like that. You know, if he can't cut down on them for a friend who cares for him, then maybe he shouldn't be your friend. Especially since he laughed when youre dorm was searched. I think it be time to cut him free. But be careful, if he is high when you drop him, he can seriously hurt you!
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Ever since sophomore year in high school a group of friends and I have always gone to South Padre for spring break. We're all sophomores in college now so this year is going to be our 5th. Well I have another friend that isn't apart of our group and she's going to Italy for spring break this year and asked me to come along.
Now, I'm not sure who to go with. I know what you're thinking though, "Italy, what an opportunity" But, I just went over the summer so it's not like a big deal. So should I just say no and go to South Padre?
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Now, it depends, is this group of friends, close?
Or does this new person seem more important. I advise you to pick VERY carefully. Your friends are expecting you, or did you tell them about the other offer? If you think they'll understand about you going to itlay, and you like this new girl, and aren't just hanging out with her for kicks, then by all means, go to italy, but if this group of friends won't understand, and they are really close, then you should keep your plans to them. But offer the new girl, or even ask her if your friends can go with you two. I am guessing that either way, it'll be a tough decision, but if they understand, you have picked some awesome friends!
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