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love... is it real?
I was just wondering what everyone thinks about love? I don't believe in love and was just wondering what everyone else thought about it.
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Of course there is such a thing as love. You experience it on a daily basis. You love your friends, mother, father, grandmother/father, ice cream, chocolate...your dog/cat, etc. Love is all around you, open yourself up to it. You are even made up of love just as we all are. What I think you are referring to is the popularized "in love", scenerio. That is ABSOLUTELY possible as well. The problem I'm seeing these days is that this is unfortunately not a probable scenerio. What people most often do (and I've done this myself) is mistake a chemical reaction to someone's pheromones as being "in love". Now, granted, this strong chemical reaction to someone can certainly lead to a true "in love" situation, but most often does not and this is because people confuse this chemical reaction as being "in love". This is why you hear so many people say when they break up with someone that the person they are breaking up with is nothing like who or what they thought they were. This initial chemical reaction is so strong that people often overlook potential problems and fantasize these potential problems aren't real. I call this stage "in lust". What happens in this stage is the object of your desire is on your mind constantly. All you can think of, smell, and see. People aren't staying together much anymore so it's difficult to see how a true "in love" couple looks. Actual true love comes in after the strong chemical reaction of pheromones has settled (it's still there, it's just not on full alert). It's not as strong anymore because other life issues come creaping back into existance. While in the lust/chemical state people block out all that is going on around them and go into a hyper-focus state. In this mode all you can see is the other person. Then life starts envading. In other words life just starts to get in the way. One of the many ways love developes is how each person observes how the other meets lifes challenges. This is the part where people need to learn to work on being together. The part where life hits you between the teeth. True love is loyal, trusting and respectful (to simplify it a lot). There is giving, taking and compromising. It's taking responsibilty for who you are and in turn you are able to share and open up the most precious gift there is (you)and share (Who you are) with another person. To feel safe with this is a very difficult thing. Very, very few people ever acheive this level. Most people are maintaining a part of themselves hidden for fear of being hurt. People fear that if they reveal themselves then they will open themselves up to being hurt by someone else. That can't happen unless you let it (I mean this in the emotional sense). You can do this without feeling the pain, but this is a another complicated issue that would take me hours to touch on. From the sound of your question, you haven't had that chemical reaction to anyone as of yet. Not to worry, it will happen all in good time. You will probably meet and become close with a few people before you discover the one person that will turn your world on end. It is my wish for you that it will be a good end too. This issue is not so easily explained in an advise colomn like this. I hope that I've given you enough information to enable you to figure some of it out for yourself. You see, part of the lesson of love is for you to experience it and learn from it at your own pace and level. Good luck!
Namaste,
LULABELLE
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I think it's real, however, sometimes it's short-lived.
Lots of people think they're in love or about to be when boom it's all over and their world comes crashing down. Just because some people are afraid of love doesn't mean they should be in denial of it's existence. I think the most precious love is the love you might have for your family. That kind of love is rarely destroyed. Think about it. A husband & wife get divorced, but they have children. 99.9% of the time, they will NEVER stop loving those children, even though their love has already faded. I think love for family is a stronger, deeper, more compassionate form, something that you can depend on. I've seen people hurt time and time again, so I think love is a risk. I guess for some people it works. I know when you're in love and everything's right it's the only thing in the world that matters and everything is amazing. But, you can turn that around and say that it is the most deep and destructive form of emotional wreckage there is.
I would personally like to steer clear of it for a while. Anyway, the topics controversial, I'm sure you'll hear all sorts of opinions.
! ♥ merry christmas baby ♥ !
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ok this SO might not be any help at all but i found it and thought you should read.
love isn't just a word, its a feeling, its something you live and something you breath. love is taken in through your mind and settles in your heart. its not something you just say blankly. its the feelings and the emotions that are behind that word that make it special. Its the smile that you get when you hear their voice, no matter how bad your day has been. its the constant heart race and the butterflies in your stomach when they hug or kiss you. its the trust that you have in each other, knowing they'll always be there, even when u don't ask them to be. Its them knowing you so well to know that something is wrong even when you say a million times that nothing is. that is love.
like it? i do.
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I beleive in love. I think you might not beleive in it because you have not experienced it yet with a bf..but think for a minute. Don't you love your family and friends? Love isnt just the kind of love you share with your bf or husband , you can also have love for close friends and family.
-meliss
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I believe in love... These are the reasons:
Love is not only loving your boyfriend, love is to love your sister and your parents. Love is to love your friends and love is to love the others. Imagine our world without love. People who care only about money and their own good. Wars and little children who suffer. Without love our world would be destroyd. Why? Because love is the spirit that makes us help, and love is what makes us feel pitty for poor people.
But because i am sure you are talking about the love a couple feels i will explain what it is.Or what i think it is..."LOVE" is love, cherish, kind, caring, sharing, understanding, accept, concern, forgiveness, sacrifice, patient, compromise, honest, trust and respect.
If you love someone, you should accept each other as what he or she is !!
Love is Joy, Love is Happiness. Sometimes ... love hurts. Sometimes love makes you feel. But the many faces of love can be expressesed through these feeling ... that expresses the different.
So ... "Faces of Love" ... Love leaves a smile on your heart ...
Love is real, caring and concern.
Love makes as feel and love makes us want. Love is something deep and PERFECT. Love is everything around us because they are made with love...
Believe in love! Let your self love because only if you really love you learn and finally you are happy...
I haven't loved some guy but i know that i love my sister and i know that love is there for eveyone...
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its beautiful. = )
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i believe in love. me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 months and we LOVE each other. we are trying not to take our relatinship fast. 2 days ago we kissed for the first time so i do believe in love.
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