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ok. 15/f
my boyfriend and i have been together for a year. but jwe broke up about 2 weeks ago. is there a way i can keep him as my friend but not cry myself to sleep.
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SoOo sorry! i think that you should talk to him and tell him how you feel, but if your not a touchy feely, then just talk to him on the phone and try to convince yourself that he isnt worth you tears. Put youself back on the market and dont drag on just one guy! ther are other fish in the sea ;)
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Hmm this seems like a scary situation. It would depend why you broke up. Try to talk him into remaining friends and who knows maybe one day you two will end up together again?
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let him know how you feel. that way you can`t regret not saying it later. and that way he`ll know and it`s all up to him from there.
lejla maya
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Just let him know you still want to be friends. Try not to cry, it's not really worth those tears. Your only 15 and you have years & years ahead of you to meet new people, even if it doesn't mean you're gonna wind up with him. But who knows what the future holds. He's not the only guy in the world. As hard as it may seem, life will move on. IM him or call him and just tell him you still want to be friends.
good luck ♥♥
if you need any advice, let me know
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aww its ok babe i went through this too but not for so long . so anyway it may be a little awkward for a period of time, but to break the ice between you two you should just calmly and normally go up to him and ask him if you could still be friends . chances are he'll say yes because who wants to give up being friends with someone they loved ?
xoo hope this helps !! ♥
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its going to tkae time for you guys to be able to talk and be friends again. breaking up is really hard, especially if you were going out for a year. if you give it time, you guys will be friends.
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It could take some time because you guys did just break up. Just go up and try talking to him. Tell him what you want from your relationship with him. He will most likely accept your friendship. Apologize if needed.
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firstly think to yourself "why did we break up?" was it because he was mean to you? did he ignore you sometimes? wel whatever it was you can now say to yourself "wel i'm relieved to finally get out of that relationship and get on with my life.to be honest he wasn't a very good boyfrind". then you need to think to yourself" why was he my boyfriend?"is he kind?is he generous?is he thoughtful?wel these are all the qualities of a good friend.so if you think a bout maybe you were just good frineds.good friends who liked to touch each other!all in all i think you should stay friends with him and if he doesnt want to stay friends with you wel then he was a very nice person to begin with because you didn't just hav a relationship because of ach others looks.i no dat was most of it but not the whole thing!part of you relationship was each others personaltiy.
hope i helped!xoxo
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Your question should, I suspect,really be" How can I stop crying myself to sleep?" Correct me if I'm wrong, but if you feel that being friends with him would hurt that much, chances are you're really hurting anyway.
And this is where the situation gets sticky;a clean break, or the gut-wrenching but sometimes neccesary morass which is post-relationship friendship. I know from bitterish experience that one person's friendship is another's barely disguised longing to get back together;from your question I would guess(again, sorry if I'm wrong)that you are the one who would want to reinstate the relationship. If this is the case, then the only advice I can honestly give is to take a deep breath and forget about "friendship" for a while. It doesn't have to be forever, just until you're sufficiently over him to be able to enjoy his company without longing every moment to get back together. In the meantime, make other freinds, hang out, enjoy your own company and that of your girlfriends. A year is a long time to have dated at age fifteen. You have to give yourself time to feel better. Good luck.
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aww hun i am soooo sorry. it must me really hard for you. my advice to you is to talk him maybe even work it out. call him up and tell him if he doenst want to go back together then you guys should at least by friends. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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