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what is going on?
16/F
Alright, so this is what is going down. I am going to ask this guy out, but the thing is, whenever I go to do it, he does something or calls one of his friends over. I am asking him out because he is incredibly shy and won't do it himself. But here is the other thing, his best friend asked him what he would do if someone, like me, asked him out. He said he would just wing it, but then a couple seconds later he said that he would say yes. I don't get it. I am really confused and a little pissed off, considering I tried to do this three times and each time it fell through. Is he just avioding the question, is he nervous about answering the question or does he just not like me at all?
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well it could mean anything. He could like you or not want you at all. You need to find out! Tell him you need to talk to him alone without anyone around.Then when the time comes and no ones around ask him do you like me?when he answers then go in for the well i like you and will you go out with me?If he answers no than say ok i just wanted to know see you around.If he says yes than say great i really like you and im glad you and i are going out.
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OK, you say this guy is really shy. Maybe when a girl approaches him he doesn't know what to do or say so it's easier and safer for him to ask his buddies to join him. If his best friend asked him what he'd do if you asked him out and his answer was positive like it sounded it was, then I wouldn't worry too much about how he thinks of you. And, you obviously heard that he wouldn't mind if a girl asked him out. Meaning, he doesn't sound like the type of guy who would be offended by a girl asking him out. If you're truly interested in this guy and you're having trouble getting him alone to talk, you could always write him a sweet, SHORT note asking him if he would join you in going to the movies or wherever. If you think he's too shy to go out with you alone the first time, you could propose a second option in the note and ask him if he and his buddies would like to join you and your friends in some outing. In the note, simply ask him to call you sometime and include your telephone number so that he can choose to talk to you in private or not. You don't need to ask him if he'd go out on a date with you. Just come up with something you'd like to do with him and make your note a FRIENDLY gesture towards doing something together or with friends. You could pass the note to him in class, in the hall, or put it is his locker providing he has slits in the door like so many lockers do. Try not to give him this note in front of his friends. You don't want to embarrass him and give his friends a chance to tease him. Surely you can find some moment when he is alone to quickly pass the note to him? Give him a little while to respond. I wouldn't usually recommend a note for something like this, but it sounds as though this might be your only way to "talk" with him right now. See how he reacts to your note and then go from there. If he doesn't respond, then you'll know that you need to move on..find another interest.
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Chances are his actions are [if done intentionally] done more out of nervousness than just because he doesn't like you. You'll just have to 'corner him' or at least make it so that no other situation can come up and interrupt. If he is too shy, then you'll just have to bear with him on that - it won't last forever. Does he know you've been trying to ask him out? I mean I can't say whether he should or shouldn't know, because it all depends on the situation. But either case, you should get his attention but also without being too...intimidating. Guys can get a lot more nervous than you think - I would know. So yeah, give him some time because he might not want to say yes because he doesn't feel ready, or not say no because he might have feelings for you. Be patient - good things come to those who wait. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Look, you should think about it. How is his behaviour when you are with him? You say that he is shy, but maybe he is the type of guy who believes that the boy asks the girl out...Continue being a friend of him and do not try to ask him out again. Wait a couple of weeks and if he will not ask you out try to find someone new. Imean, you cannot wait him for your whole life! There are so many boys out there!If he will say something to you that means that he likes you. But if not, sorry but he is an idiot and does not understand what a special sweet person you are!
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