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Best Friends For Never?
13/f... okay, this girl and i used to be like really close, we would do everything together. Now, i realized why almost half of our grade hates her, shes just not a nice person. She talks about her own friends behind there back and has done some nasty things to me. But i just cant get her away from me. Alot of my friends are still friends with her. I've tried ignoring her, but it just doesnt work! What do i do to get away from her?
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If all of that bad stuff about her is really true(be SURE it is) then you need to tell her and set her straight. She needs to realize why everyone hates her and why she's getting on your nerves, too. She may get mad and not talk to you, but you wouldn't have lost anything, right? It might be hard to do, but it's the right thing to do. You never know, it might make her take a good look at herself and how she acts. Good luck!
Amy : )
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If she has a messenger on the computer, block her screen name. When she tries talking to you in the halls at school, look away or just walk away. When she tries talking to you, ignore her. If she calls you, don't answer the phone.
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Do not be concerned with what everyone else thinks about her but how you feel about her. Rumors are a funny thing actually, since it is based on some truth but most of it is B.S. No one is perfect and if you know she has a tendency to "back-stab" then do not tell her details that matter to you. The nasty things that she has done to you is what you should be focusing on. Instead of ignoring her, tell her how you feel. Sometimes a confrontation is what the other person needs to get real. Lightly let her know that many people have gotten the same impression about her from the way she behaves and in the future she should try to censor herself.
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ok~when you hear stuff about your best friend, you should go talk to her about it. Tell her that yall need to just sit down and have a talk together. Start out slow though, don't through everything out at her in the first 5 minutes. Just ask her what shes been up to lately, then a little longer in the convo, then be like, __(her name)___ i've noticed that you ahve been kind of mean to me lately. Whats all that about? And ask her why she has changed, and maybe just be like well i think maybe its kind of mean what you have been doing, and I think you should try to stop being like that, youve changed so much since how we used to be. Then if she really still is your best friend then she will agree with you! but if she doesnt agree with you then try to nagoshiate somemore. but remember, if she starts yelling DON"T yell back. Just stay calm!
love,
Kierten
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obviously she isn't a nice person, so why not explain this all to her?? it isn't being mean if its true, plus she's mean too!! i think you should explain to her why you don't want to be her friend & all of that. she won't get mad at you & if she does there's two options. she'll either get mad & won't wanna be your friend anyway, er she'll try to fix it so she's not as mean so you guys can be friends.
-hope that helped!♥
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