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Q: hey. im a girl and im 15. theres this guy who ive liked for about 10 months now. me n him always flirted and got along great and we both knew we liked each other. aroudn about the end of august we finally started hooking up and like seeing each other. at the beginning of october we went to homeocming together and everything was perfect. i thought he was going to make it official and ask me out homeomcing night.. but i was wrong. everythign was still amazing afterwards.. like we were still "seeing" each other.. but we werent official for the next 2 months.. (until about 3 weeks ago) we were perfect but never a real couple.. about 3 weeks ago we hung out.. we were perfect as usual.. kissing.. getting a long great.. then he left my friends house and never called me again. i was crushed. now we talk and stuff.. not a lot but we do talk.. but it just seems like he acts like we had NOTHING at all. it really sucks and hurts me feelings. What should i do about all this??
Love,
I guess he fooled me

well, i think you should talk to him and just ask, "where are we goign wtih "us" or like what has happend we used to be like all happy together and would always kiss and stuff but now we never do." what i think is he started seeing another girl and didnt tell you. Just try to talk to him first! i hope this helps!

♥kiersten♥

Q: im split on 2 gurls but im close 2 both of them..... how do I decide????

simply,
SPILT

let both girls know exactly whats happening. Tell her that your inbetween her and some ohter girl. The just see how each girl acts around you and then try to decide upon that. I dont know what else to say. Like you just have to go wtih your heart!

Love,
Kiersten

Q: there is this guy i know...he thinks i am one of his best friends...but i cant stand him one bit! he is soooooo effing anoyinggg..and i just dont wanna be mean--but its embarasinggggg

-----person w/ the anoying friend

ok what i think you should do is just not hang out with him as much but just gradually pull away from him a little bit then just keep pulling away more and more till you feel like your comfertable where you are. If he is smart, then he will kind of get the drift and notice that you are kinda pulling away from him and that you dont want to be that kind of friend with him. I really hope this helps if not then just come back and ask me another question!

Q: Hey Kiersten!! okayy well there is this guy at my school that i think i like but im not sure... but i went out w/ him last year... and he just broke up w/ this gurl one of my friends..... and he sort of acts like he likes me but i cant tell... i dont wanna get in a fight w/ the gurl he just broke up w/ and i dont just wanna go ut and tell him i like him then him be like EWWW gross i dont like you!! lol cause that would be sooo embarrasing!!! and then my BEST friend on the WHOLE world HATES this kid and he would get mad at me!! and i reelyy dont know what to do!!?? im soo confused!!!
~ CoNfUsEd HeArT~

ok~ what i think you should do is just wait a little bit before you do anything! then maybe just talk to him and be like so who are u likeing these days... and just kinds hint on some things if you know for sure that you like him. And if your best friend will get mad at you over a boy, then shes not the best friend. She should really understand if you liek a boy and be happy for you! i hope this helps! if you need anything else just ask!

love kiersten

Q: 13/F Hey well I went out with guy and well I dumped him like on Fri. and he still likes me and i like him but i don't know if i should go back out with him. Cause it like took us 2 1/2 wks to get together and im afaid it will takes us longer to get together. So should I go back out with him or what!?!

well, i think that you should just wait a little bit longer before you do go back out with him. By then yall will both have time to think everything over again before you do go back out. Because if you do make the commitment, then decide you dont want to be in that relationship anymore again, then yall will break up again and so on. So i think that you should just wait atleast a week or 2 just to re think things. i hope this helps you!

Q: 13/m well ive been going out with this gurl for about 2 months now and shes real into sports and im real into her but i dunno what to get her for Christmas and i wanna make it good but like i dont wanna like make it seem like she has to get me sumthing real good or nuthin wuts just sumthing normal i can get her???? or just what would u like that might gimmie some ideas

umm ok i say you get her a gift card to like her favorite store with like her favorite candy or like flowers..thats what my friend did for his gf after like 2 1/2 months...i hope this helps! if you have any questions then just ask!

Q: I have a boyfriend and I have NO IDEA what to get or make him for Christmas. I've asked him, but he keeps saying he doesn't know! AHH! && Well he plays the guitar and I don't know I was thinking about making him a double necklace with 2 crosses on them, but then I'm not sure! What do guys want for Christmas?! Or good ideas for other gifts to make? Anything. Please.

5's for thoughts.

Thanks. :0)

maybe you can think about getting him a gift card to a guitar place, or his favorite store with his favorite candy or something! or you can get him a picture frame or something with yalls picture together in it! that would be cute my friends done that before! sorry if i was no help! tell me what you got him once you do!!

Q: hey!! okay so im 13 and im a gurl! lol but yeah aneway sooo i got this friend and she likes this guy and like she always talks bout him and then when shes around him and stuff or like when i talk bout her liken him she TOTTALY denys it and acts like im crazy.. shes like uh i dont like him and then he gets mad at me fur "lien" to him.. and then the next day she wants me to tell him sumthin fur her.. and yeah im gettin sick of it and i dont just wanna tell her to stop and do stuff fur herself.. soo wut do i do?! sorry if this is too hard to answer.. it is kinda cunfusin! oh yeah and also like every freakin day shes changes her mind to wether or not she likes him! ahhh!!! lol kk well im dun!!

ok when a friend does that she really does like him and if shes making you tell him stuff then she may just be using you to do stuff for her.. but if you know your closer than that, then talk to her one day and just be like do you really like him or not? and be like i think you should just talk to him for yourself, dont keep asking me to tell him stuff for you. That will make him think that your shy, and alot of guys dont like that, most of the time they want you to come and talk to them! i hope this makes sence and helps you!

Q: hey!! okay im 13/f! so aneway.. okay i have this one friend and she calls me alot and stuff and she says wer best friends or w/e.. and then she acts all funny and normal w/ me and THEN when we are in a group with more "popular" people.. like we are both friends w/ them or w/e but she starts to act totally different and sum times doesnt even talk to me at all!! it suks so bad cuz i thought we wer best friends or w/e. so i told her that it kinda bugged me and she was just like k ill try to improve.. but then she did it again!!! wut do i do?! do i just stop bein her friend or give her another chance to prove that she can change?

ok this EXACT thing is happening to me! ok when you guys are together yall have fun and stuff and she actually cares about you,but when you are in a group of people, then shes TOTALLY different! ok well what I'm trying to do is just hang out wtih her more just us, and when she wants to do something as a group i just dont or i just get some people that i know whould actually hang out wtih me cause i know she will ignore me. My other friend thinks that we should jsut give up now because shes fed up, which i kinda am! so right now im just hanging out with her myself or getting people i want to come with us! i hope this helps! if you have any other questions just ask me!

love,
kiersten

Q: ok kind of wierd umm is ther anyways to get bigger breast in a natural way like w/o pills and stuff thanks
~bigger and better~

ok like i dont really know anything, but i know that if u sleep just with a tshirt on and like no bra or tanktop, then its supposed to make your boobs bigger!

love,
kiersten

Q: hey who knows some websites where you can download FREE music for your mp3 player. i know there is some b/c a lady my mom works with her daughter has done that. but can some of you please give me some sites?? thanks in advance
i'll rate 5 for any helpful answers!

ok i use bear share... just go to www.bearshare.com and then type in what song you want in the seach bar thing and then double click on the song once you find what one you want and then it will show up in the downloaded section and when your downloading bearshare onto your comp. then you choose what file you want all your music to go to! hope it will help!

love,
Kiersten

Q: So my bestfriend is turning 17 Dec. 17th and I was planning on throwing him a suprise party. I already have everything all planned out and I already invited everyone! So everything is basically ready.

Well, last night his mom called me and told me that she didn't want me to throw him a party because she didn't want to pay for it. His parents are buying him a new car for his birthday since he had to get his older brothers car when he had first got his license. Since they were gettign the car, they don't want to speand any more money.

I told her that it wasn't a problem because I was going to pay for everything and she didn't have to worry about it. I was never even planning on asking then to pay for it.

Food isn't a problem because my mom already agreed to buy the food for us. Neither is alcohol becuase everyone always chips in to pay for that. And we already have decorations and stuff left over from past parites. And itisn't liek we have to pay for music.

I told her all of this and she still said she didn't want me to throw one becuase she'd fell like she was supposed to pay for it. How can I convince her that she doesn't and to let me throw him a party??

Ok~ this happend to me kinda...like if she doesn't agree with you, then just do it! Just ask him to come over to wherever your throwing the party, hell never know and his mom will not know and then he'll come home, tell his mom, and she will think better of you because you did that for him. If she does come back to you and ask you why you did it and everythign then jsut tell her that everybody chiped in and he is your best friend and you thought that it would be nice of you to do that for him.

love,
kiersten

Q: alright i like this person but this person is in a relationship but kinda hinting me on what do u do

ok-this has like definantly happend to me..ok this might mean a couple things...like ok if this person is like leading you on or w/e and theyre in a relationship that might mean that they arent like trustworthy because like then thats kidna saying that if yall ended up going out then they could do that to another person jsut like they are doing it to you. Also, they might now mean anything, like if yall are good friends then they might just be joking or liek just having fun with you, it doesnt always mean that they mean it. Also, they might be stuck in their relationship and they dont want to break up wtih the other person because it may hurt them, or they maybe jsut cant decide if they really liek you or their bf/gf. But, if you that that their trustworthy, and you KNOW for a fact that they arent jsut joking or w/e, then maybe you should give it a shot. Talk to them privately and ask them about their relationship with their bf/gf and if they say its amazing and theyre really happy then be like thats awesome! but like it seems like you have been leading me on lately and i want to know whats going on becase i really like you and i dont wnat my heart to be played with... dont be afraid to talk to them about it, and if they are just like well i was just kidding, then be like ok thats kool. but hopefully they tell you the truth. But if you think that they arent trustworthy, then dont go out with them even if they keep leading you on, then tell them flat out what you think. sorry this may be really confusing, but hey like if you need anythign or any more advice then jsut ask me!

love,
kiersnen

Q:

I'm a girl and im 13 . okk well i've been hooking up with this guy and i kind of like him but im not sure if he likes me and i just wish that everything can be awesome even though i know that life isn't perfect and yeah . so i know that this isnt really a straight up question but what do you think i should do ?

xoxoxo

ps - im sorry if my question is weird or something

ok~if you are hooking up with a guy alot and you like him he may not have the same feelings. He may just be using you cause your the only girl he can get something from, he may be hooking up with you because your a slut(i doubt it at 13), of he may actually really like you too! I say you talk to him about it and be like are we going to go anywhere with what we have, or are we just going to keep hooking up? He most likely will give you an answer. If he says he just wants to keep hooking up, then just ask him if maybe yall will have a chance later in the future, but if he says he wants to go somewhere in your relationship, then go for it girl!

Love,
Kiersten

Q: 13/f... okay, this girl and i used to be like really close, we would do everything together. Now, i realized why almost half of our grade hates her, shes just not a nice person. She talks about her own friends behind there back and has done some nasty things to me. But i just cant get her away from me. Alot of my friends are still friends with her. I've tried ignoring her, but it just doesnt work! What do i do to get away from her?

ok~when you hear stuff about your best friend, you should go talk to her about it. Tell her that yall need to just sit down and have a talk together. Start out slow though, don't through everything out at her in the first 5 minutes. Just ask her what shes been up to lately, then a little longer in the convo, then be like, __(her name)___ i've noticed that you ahve been kind of mean to me lately. Whats all that about? And ask her why she has changed, and maybe just be like well i think maybe its kind of mean what you have been doing, and I think you should try to stop being like that, youve changed so much since how we used to be. Then if she really still is your best friend then she will agree with you! but if she doesnt agree with you then try to nagoshiate somemore. but remember, if she starts yelling DON"T yell back. Just stay calm!

love,
Kierten

Q: okay well i asked that question about missa. and brittany and where all the girls in my grade come to the bathroom with me and so on..

Heres the story:

I IM'ED Marisa and I questioned "May i ask why you are mad at me and why you hate me?"

and she said:

Marisa: Yeah you may ask and heres the answer.. Because you talk about me behind my back.. You said im a backstabber.. You send my convos to people and try to get them to go against me.. your a spoiled brat.. you get pissed off when im hanging out with brittany.. And last but not least; You LIE.

Me: Okay, i never called you a backstabber... I never talked about you behind your back except the day you made me cry.. I ADMIT IT. I once sent a convo to brittany and nora when you said we arent friends anymore. And i was upset and they both helped me. I am a spoiled brat and i get everything i want. I do get jellous when you are with brittany but i suck it up, is that all a lie? no its all the truth.

Marisa: Yeah well i dont know if we can be friends with eachother anymore, i dont trust you!

Me: I don't know you are throwing away a good friendship and really im not going to come crawling back and if you do im going to reject your plead.

Marisa: You were ging to back stabb me anyways

Me: NO I WASNT!

Marisa: well thats what brittany said

********I IM BRITTANY************

Me: heyy

brit: heyy

Me: why did you tell missa that i was going to back stabb her, you are trying to just hogg her!

Brit signs off at 3:57:52 PM

**********MARISA IMS ME************

Marisa: why are you sending convos to people?

Me: im just asking brittany why she said that i was going to back stabb you

Marisa: Well I know you will i dont trust you!!

Me: dont okay, i apologize, but i dont think that you deserve a apology after what you did to me.

Marisa: bye

Me: bye

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Do you think that i should get over her.. but now i have no friends and all of them went against me because marisa is making them and i feel heart broken....

should i apologize to god or should i forget about her?

x0o Brok3n

dear brok3n..
Ok, this exact thing happend to me. You did nothign wrong becuase you appoligized so don't show that your weak anymore. You have to act like you really don't care anymore. If she is really your friend and she cared for you then she'll come back to you and appologize. If she doesn't come back to you and appoligize, then don't worry because you have tons of other friends.
love,
kiersten

bio

Hey guys! im kiersten(im on the right in the pic)and i live in Georiga! I go to rsms and i have brown hair and brown eyes! my friends are AMAZING! i love to swim haha im on a swim team yea! but it kinda sucks! haha! but i LOVE to just be wild and crazy and everything! me and my friends just like run out in the rain alot and expecially lay out in the middle of the street at night! its so much fun! i love you!