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CONTROLING PARENTS
Hello, I need some help or advice. Well I'm 20 years old and I live with my parents. My entire life they have been controlling. However, recently I was engagged and moved out simply because they wanted me to and broke off the engagment and moved back home because I relized I loved someone else. Whom they hate and wont meet because he broke off the engagment. Anyways, I love him. However my parents think I'm 12 and tell me what to do, they tell me what time to be home, and yell at me when I get home after 3 in the morning. I know I live here with them however, I can't take them telling me what to do. I've told them before but they do not change. However, last night I got home around 4, and my parents were awake and said they tried callign me, but i was sleeping. I was like okay, they were like your a lier, dans a bad guy, and yoru a bad person, and saying all this negative bad thigns about me, when all I want to do is not have them controll me anymore. Anyways, my mom and dad were yelling and them my dad started hitting me I wasnt' talking back or anything, just simply because he was mad them my mom tried to stop him, then he started trying to hurt my puppy. Then they finally went to bed. I dont' know what to do. I want to move out with my boyfriend but I'm afraid they will not let me and controll me, I need to get out of here. I need to move out but then i'm afraid they will try to take my car away, or try to hurt my boyfriend or me? Help I don't know what to do or where to go for help I feel lost, and confuesed and controlled I need to be free. Help Please!
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I found myself in the exact same situation last year. I have one word for you: LEAVE! That's what I did and I'm so much happier. I'm living with my soon to be fiance, I haven't seen my parents for at least three months and I couldn't be happier. Be prepared to get a lot of crap from your family and be prepared to miss them a little, but it really is worth all of it. Once you are 21, you are completely independent from your parents anyways. Even though you are considered an adult at age 18, your parents are supposed to support you financially until you are 21. You shouldn't have to put up with their garbage. They can't do anything to you if you leave and they won't. The big plus in your situation is that you have a car...I don't have that luxury, so it's a little harder for me. Not having a car is one of the only things that I've had a hard time with. The bottom line is, you need to do what makes you happy, and you certainly don't seem too happy in your current situation, so leave! Nothing can keep you there. Be strong, stand up for what you believe, and you'll be very surprised how many people will support you and offer to help you out. Good luck!!!
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move out when your dad isn't paying attention
no, i'm serious
pack what you want to take with you
tell them you started things back up with your former fiance if you have to
just get out of there any way possible, it's not healthy.
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since you are 20, your parents dont really have the right to tell you when to be home and stuff like that. tell them how this is making you feel, say something like this: " you guys are too conrtolling, you dont really have the right to control me bc i am 20 years old, you cant hit me or my property." say something like that. i think you should move in with your boyfriend, that way, you can be with the one you like, come home whever you want, and not hafta worry about your parents yealling and contolling you. they cant make you stay there. you have the right to move out.
hope i helped!
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Well, since you are twenty years old, they don't have much of a choice if you want to move out. Are you on the title of your own car? If so, they cannot do anything. If they do you can call the cops on them for stealing it. If they try and hurt you or your boyfriend, same thing. Do not deal with them. Move out, there is no need to deal with abust at any age, especially when you can so easily move away from it.
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I may be younger, but my friend's older brother is going through the exact same thing. Your parents have absoulutley NO reason to hit you. That's child abuse. But, since you ARE living with them, I guess they have the right to treat you like that. Sit your mom down, (( she's the better one it sounds like)), and tell her you love your boyfriend and you love your parents, but you are going to move out. If they yell and scream, call child abuse. I know it sounds scary, but you're an adult. You can make your own decision, i found similar issue on the internet. Goto the following website, PLEASE let me know if this helped. Goto my advice colum, and let me know if you have anymore questions.
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