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Moving in with my dad
My mom recently got remarried over the summer and my step dad and I do not get along at all. I've always loved my mom and loved living with her but I cannot stand her husband and he doesn't think too much of me either. I tried to make it work with her but I can't keep trying.
Yesterday we were in an argument and he suggested that I move in with my dad. At first I just got really up set that he said that and called him an asshole. But then I realized that it might be a good idea.
My dad is great and he is a good parent--I'm just used to living with my mom. My mom refuses to let me live with him. But they have joint custody of me so can I still move in if my mom says no?
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pray about it hun
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Trust me when I say this, your mom loves you and treasures you.
You should try and work it out with your step-father, if that doesn't work, try talking to your mom about it. Some people say things they don't mean when they are angry, and even adults make errors in judgement.
You love your mom and it's not the relationship between you and her that is the problem. What your step-father said was wrong, and if I were your mother I would be upset with him by what he said. That was insensitive of him for even suggesting it. Perhaps he's frustrated with not being able to cooperate with you, too. Talk to him about it. Say that you respect him as family and he should give you the same respect too. You both love mom and would do nothing to hurt her, that part is clear. This should be a clear signal that you want to make this work. Think about making peace with your step-father, because what you're suggesting will be much harder on yourself and your family.
As for joint custody, you can't do anything about where you want to live or visitations until you are an adult (18). In some cases, you get to decide who you want to stay with at a certain age. I believe mine was around 13 or 14.
Remember that it's not about who seems perfect or not, it's about seeing that imperfect person perfectly. Since you've had to live in a house with your mom and step-father, you see a whole other side to them that you don't see from a different view. Your step-father is probably a good parent, if you give him a chance. Look at this situation from several perspectives before you make your decision.
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You have every right to choose where you want to live. Even though you don't like your step dad I think you should keep trying to get along with him. It's both of your choices not to like each other, but you can change that. Get to know him better and just talk to him. Whatver you guys argue about, try to stop it. Talk to your mom again. Since they both have custody of you, you can choose to live wherever you want. If you really feel like it's the right thing to do, talk to your dad about it. Your mom probablly said no because she loves you so much and she doesn't want you to move. Just put yourself in her shoes. You're still her child and she doesn't want you to leave. Just give it some more time. Keep trying to be nice to your step dad. He doesn't mean any harm towards you.
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well it kind of depends on how old you are.
you can tell your dad you want to take it to court, and if the court says you're old enough to make the decision on your own, you tell them that you want to live with your dad and why.
((i went through the same things with my parents)). hope i helped!!
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well i know how u feel it really stinks...sometimes me and my stepfather don't get along.....here are some ways you can make friends with him...............you could impress him or do something really cool like you could do a hole tun of chores (not like you woud wana)
well thats all i got
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