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sexual displessure
I have a boyfriend that I am very much inlove with. But in every relationship that I am ever in it goes great until they want to do something sexual! I duno why i just get really shy and scared. its not that im afraid of the thing its just im afraid of doing it with the person! its kind of confusing. I really love my boyfriend though and I want to be able to do stuff with him when the time comes cause I love him to death! How can I loosen up? Any advice?
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hey! i really hate to answer these types of questions... but i though you needed my help... well i just thought that you should wait until your even married for you to even do it yet... tell your bf that your not gonna be ready until you marry him...
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Hey hun,
I don't think you should loosen up at all! If you get really shy and scared, then your definitely not ready to do anything. If I were you, I would wait until your 100 percent ready, because you won't be shy and you won't be scared. You'll feel very comfortable with doing things with your boyfriend! I'm the same way, but I don't want to rush into doing anything, because I know deep down I'm not ready. I'm trying to find the right guy right now, and when I do I wanna take things slow. I want it to be very special. Wait until you know your ready, and you'll be so glad you waited. It'll be that much more special for the both of you! I'm sure your boyfriend will understand if you explain to him that your just not ready to do anything yet. If not, he's not a great boyfriend. I hope I helped you out hun! If you need anything else, please leave one in my inbox! Luv ya! <3 KiMmY
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Hey!
Thats not confusing at all. I feel the same way. I really dont like having a sexual relationship with someone..im a simple person..i like to cuddle and makeout..and thats pretty much it.. Once you have been with him for a while..you will be able to totally be yourself around him and you will probably be very comfortable with doing sexual things..just because you know and trust him more. Dont worry about the future right now..just take each day as it comes and when that topic comes up..then you'll have to sit down and think about wether you're comfortable enough with him to have a sexual relationship.
pce :)
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I think you just asked and answered your own question darling.
"When the time comes" is exactly right. BUT the time must be right for you as well as the guy you are with. Shyness and fear are probably your minds way of telling you that you are not confident enough in the relationship with that person to take it to that level.
Focus on what you want, not your relationship or what he wants, but what you yourself are interested in doing with them. When the time does come, and you are ready to make that decision for yourself, explain your fear to your partner and take it slow.
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Listen there is no reason to loosen up. Trust me! I felt the same way about my x and Im glad I didnt got too far with him bc I just broke up with him. But listen if you feel uncomfterable the your not ready. and a good bf doesnt pressure. When your ready it will come naturally and then you an do whatever you want. But to loosen up more you just have to trust him and figure how far youll go. But listen even if you love him to death he will understand if you dont want to do nothing. You cant really loosen up if you dont want to so dont pressure yourself. It will happen when you feel ready and he knows it. But dont just go off and have sex bc it cold end up as a really big mistake
Hope I helped''
Bianca
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