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Part of the Gang
This may seem a bit random, but I'll ask anyway.
Last year, i transferred from my school to a new school in a new district. I have been going to my old school since elementary school [it has elementary, junior high, and high school]. I spent five years with the same people in my grade, so needless to say, changing schools would seem to be a big deal. But, being the person i am, I adapt easily and made friends. However, this group of friends I made, most of them are guys. Counting them, I would say there are 6 guys and at most two girls [not including me]. While it can be a bit awkward sometimes, it really is fun; we always hang out [even in the summer], watching movies and playing football while hanging out at each others' houses. But I still feel like I'm not "really in the group", because once in a while they make plans without telling me or try to hide it from me.
Getting to the point, my question is, how do I know if I'm really 'accepted' into the group or another question is, how do i become closer to my friends [especially the guys]? Next year, they'll be graduating [the guys are ALL seniors], the girls plus me, are juniors, so I want to be able get closer with them before they and we graduate. Giving me advice such as "talk to them more" or anything like that force me to whack you or give you a low rating.
thanks.
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well i think you could try hanging out with them more but you asking them too hang out and call some of the guys you know and talk to them about stuff you know and become close to the point where you can tell him anithing you know hope i helped !!
♥ Samra
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well what you should do is start calling them more and ask to hang out. and stuff like that stay cool.
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Well, first of all, find out who the dominant person in the group is. They are usually the ones who pretty much decide what your groups opinion is on something or what other groups you like/dislike.
If you want to be truly accepted, you need to be accepted by this Queen/King Bee. Spend some quality time with them or stay silent with them if you disagree with something they say. Be a little non-threating girl and just have a la-di-da-I-don't-care-about-anything-because-I'm-just-too-carefree. Ignore obvious jabs and just act laid back. This way, you're not just denying yourself your identity, you just aren't -as- concerned with it as you would normally be.
Next step, start planning stuff by yourself and inviting everyone to it (including the Bee). Be outgoing and conspicuous so that everytime they go somewhere without you, they'll miss you.
It's just a simple task of being remembered. Boys aren't the most intelligent human beings and the only time they'll remember you is if you have made an impact on them. They might make a passing comment about how you aren't there but they probably won't pick up their cells and call you.
It's weird that the girls don't notice you around though. Females are usually pretty protective of that. Take a look at who you have a problem with and play Miss Innocent for a bit.
I know moving is hard, and it sucks more when you think you've settled in and you come to the realization that maybe you haven't.
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usually when groups organise stuff there is one person who organises who to call (of course different people may organise each time). if there are times when you're not invited out then that means that there must be some particular people in the group you are not that close to, and in fact if you think about it you probably have a good guess who they are.
because everyone is graduating, this changes everything, its only the groups with really strong relationships that survive these kind of changes, so what I would do is decide who in the group you are closest to and even just hang out with JUST that person. its usually your own relationship with individuals that are important, not your relationship with the whole group
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i feel as though i didnt help you much soo if i can help you any further please ask and i will try my best thnksss
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