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As indicated by the subject of this question, this is another one of those 'omg am i in love? or is it lust? or is it... something my mind made up to mock me?" type questions. So please bear with me. this is going to be a LONG question or series of questions. If you don't believe me go ahead and scroll down and look.
My first question would be to the guys: Do you guys enjoy flirting with a girl before making any type of move? It seems to me that guys find it fun to seem interested in a girl then totally shoot her down. Or something to that effect. Do guys believe in real honest-to-goodness true love? Or do you guys just see flings [right word?] as the right thing and see how many girlfriends you can get and then dump before you graduate high school/college? Right now, I would to state that no, I am not biased in seeing guys as heart-breakers and have no feelings. I'm just wondering, since I have no idea what a guy's notion of flirting is. Do guys believe in love at first sight or true love? Or is it that the only love left in this world is more similar to lust? Do you guys have high standards in what you expect in the 'perfect' girl?
Girls. Do any of you girls find yourselves falling in love with every single guy that comes along and makes an impact or small dent in your life? Do you find yourself daydreaming about the cute guy you've never talked to before or one of your new guy friends falling in love with you? Do you believe that out there, somewhere, there is a perfect guy? Do you believe that you'll meet him before you graduate high school or after? before you graduate college or after? I'm the type of person who wants a soul mate before graduating high school. High standard but what can I say? Almost every girl dreams of finding the perfect one before too long. Is it wrong to have too many high standards for what you want in a guy?
Now this section is to either gender. How do you know if you're truly 'in love' and not lusting? People probably have asked this question many times before, but I'm still curious. I've fallen in and out of love faster than you can say "omgimthinkimlove~". I can't really trust my feelings so saying things like "just trust your heart" does not bode well with me. What's the difference between love and lust as in how do you know when you feeling lust instead of love? Can you trust yourself to truly to be 'heads over heels' in love? Can your deep feelings of love be a fabrication of your mind when it senses that you're really lonely? Define true love, give me how you feel when you believe you're truly in love.
Anyone who bothers to read this entire question passage and cares to think deeply about the questions i've asked and answers thoughtfully would definitely get a 5. I would be really surprised if more than three people answer more than three questions or bother to answer at all. Answer more than two questions at least please. If you read this far, congratulations you get a virtual cookie and probably a 5 if you answer all the above questions [depending on if you're a girl or guy] or more than three. Idiots who have no idea what they're saying and are trying to sound philosophical will have a 1 branded on their foreheads or something. (link)
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realy guys seem to have that reputation of flirting and then breaking hearts straight after huh? well i can almost guarantee that most guys will not do this on purpose. Of course everybody loves flirting but I guess the whole point of flirting is to test how compatible you are with that person, you can never really know how compatible you are with that person until you put them to the test ie. flirting.
Of course a lot of the time it turns out that the person isn't quite what you had in mind, and then interest would naturally drop. nothing personal against the girl, but it just didn't seem to click I guess. but i guess the moral of the story is enjoy the flirting regardless.
alright youre next question, is it lust or love? I always wondered about this too, and I came to a good test. What you do is ask youself: "would you feel earth shattering sadness if that person was to disappear forever?"
If the answer is Yes, then you know its true love because something really special would have ripped away from you.
If the answer is No, then even though they may have been the hottest person around they were not important for you. I can say that about Jessica Alba, damn thats one fine chick, however if she was to disappear forever I can safely say I wouldn't give it a second though. Defintely Lust.
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This may seem a bit random, but I'll ask anyway.
Last year, i transferred from my school to a new school in a new district. I have been going to my old school since elementary school [it has elementary, junior high, and high school]. I spent five years with the same people in my grade, so needless to say, changing schools would seem to be a big deal. But, being the person i am, I adapt easily and made friends. However, this group of friends I made, most of them are guys. Counting them, I would say there are 6 guys and at most two girls [not including me]. While it can be a bit awkward sometimes, it really is fun; we always hang out [even in the summer], watching movies and playing football while hanging out at each others' houses. But I still feel like I'm not "really in the group", because once in a while they make plans without telling me or try to hide it from me.
Getting to the point, my question is, how do I know if I'm really 'accepted' into the group or another question is, how do i become closer to my friends [especially the guys]? Next year, they'll be graduating [the guys are ALL seniors], the girls plus me, are juniors, so I want to be able get closer with them before they and we graduate. Giving me advice such as "talk to them more" or anything like that force me to whack you or give you a low rating.
thanks. (link)
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usually when groups organise stuff there is one person who organises who to call (of course different people may organise each time). if there are times when you're not invited out then that means that there must be some particular people in the group you are not that close to, and in fact if you think about it you probably have a good guess who they are.
because everyone is graduating, this changes everything, its only the groups with really strong relationships that survive these kind of changes, so what I would do is decide who in the group you are closest to and even just hang out with JUST that person. its usually your own relationship with individuals that are important, not your relationship with the whole group
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There are these two kids that both like me. One of them split up with the girl they were seeing for me and the other one just started liking me again. The thing is, I can't pick who I like right now..its so frustrating!! They'll always be like "your on the phone with (guys name)? F*** him!" and one of them I've liked for about a year now. The other one I told him I liked him before and he's like "No I want you to see how it feels to feel sh**ty so I don't wanna go out with you again". Now he wants to go back out with me and gets mad at me when I talk to the other guy on the phone! I mean REALLY mad. Can someone help me before this gets outta hand????? THANKS! (link)
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maybe you should just take a timeout for the moment, just tell em that you need some time to be alone because both of them sounds like their starting to get really clingy and desperate from the sounds of it! after you've had like a couple of weeks to think about stuff, then i guess you're feeling may have made up their own decision. take more time if you need!
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about 3 months ago me and my " best friend " qot into a HUGE fiqht .. she did me soo wrong .. after a while we decided to squish the beef and just be friends .. the thing is i dont just want to be friends .. i want to be best friends again but we barely talk and when we do its like hi .. wuhts up ? .. and bye .. ii really miss her but i dont know what she thinks. i want to be strong about it and forget about her cause of what she did but i cant .. its hard when everytime i see her online or talk to her i have flashbacks of when we were best friends and all the jokes and insiders we had together .. now she got other friends and its like i dont exist until she wants something or needs advice for something. i just dont know what to do .. forget about her and worry about my real friends or what ?!?!?!? i need heLp ASAP (link)
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good friends will come and go, even best friends will come and go. i think if you've talked to her about it (about how you're not as close anymore), and you've tried to initiate to do stuff together and she still doesn't respond much, then i think you can't count her as a true friend. true friends are people you can rely on, and it doesn't sound like she's that kind of person.
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hey ya'll.... ok im a 13 year old girl and i live with my dad and my twin brother... i have to share a room with my brother and as you might know i have no privacy whatsoever... okay like 1 day ago i started my period for the first time...but i odnt know how to tell my dad because i need to go buy some more supplies... and i dont want to tell my brother but im sure hell find out and i kno it will be akward.... so heres my question.. how do i tell my dad(hes a manly man) and i want to tell my brother so it wont be as akward if he finds out on his own.......how do i tell them?!?!!??!?!?o ya and how do i tell my brother to keep his mouth shut cause at the moment i dont want anyone to know!?!?!?!? thanks! (link)
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hey listen to x0 hOlLiSteR baBe, telling your dad "can you take me to buy some girl stuff", thats an awesome way to do it. that way you don't have go through an embarassing explanation, and he'll understand straight away :)
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i know this is long but please, HELP!!
okay here goes..
im 13 and a girl. i really like almost in love with this one guy at my school. last year i had every single class with him, it was like heaven. this year i have no classes with him, at all. the only time i get to see him is at nutrition and lunch, if hes in the same place i am. last year i could kind of tell he liked me but this year its hard to tell. if i pay a lot of attention to him, he becomes interested, ill try to move where he is and stare at him in a very "im into you" kind of way. but sometimes its kinda of hard to tell. i really dont feel comfortable confronting him face to face, and i havent even told my friends that i like him. how can i tell if he likes me??? I nees some other solutions then ask him straight forward, please!!!! (link)
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hey have you got any other friends who are guys? maybe you could get another guy to do some undercover work for you :) make sure the guy is pretty decent though you don't want them announcing to the world.
thats what i'd do, coz usually guys are pretty honest to each other about this kind of stuff. trust me, i'm a guy.
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I want to like self train my voice, I can't really get lessons, since my family is sort of poor... & its really hard, & I want to be able to do what I really & truely love in life, & is to sing, & I have a really bad voice, so is there like a site where I can learn some self-tips or like something cheap I can buy that teaches me how to train it?
I write songs, & I'm trying to learn piano & guitar, & I apperntly have been told I have a gift for my writing, & I've been taught that when the world oppens up & gives you a gift, you should share it with the world, so I would really love to sing
thank you, I can also try & do voice lessons if you think it would be best
15/M
-Cameron (link)
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hey maybe you could ask your music teachers at school? thats free advice from an expert, if you tell them what you just told us, they might know someone who could help you out.
also if you're really good, and love what you do a lot, people usually go out of their way to help you
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all my friends are made at me except one. i didnt have that many friends anyways. i have all my classes with those peple that hate me!!!!!!! plz help! my life is a living hell!!!!!!
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are they all mad at the same thing? what are they mad at?
don't worry you're not alone, heaps of people go through this, i know i did. all my friends turned against me not because i did anything just cause they were really immature.
its probably pretty hard but what i did was try and be a bit more independent, like reading the library at lunch, or making talking to new people at school. if your other friends are real friends they'll forgive you trust me.
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My very very good friends birthday is coming up. We just started being friends a month ago, when I met him & he's super cool. I've been thinking of getting him some presents, will you tell me if you think it's okay: Headphones [for his ipod because his are broken & they sound crappy] & the exorcist [original movie, he really wants to see it.] then i'm going to buy him a card & balloons, and also I wanted to make him a small cake. I'm really tight on money, so i was also wondering do you think he'd be okay w/ just me making him a cake and decorating it all pretty? instead of buying a cake? thanks so much. (link)
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hey why don't you make him the card too while your at it! and the cake! :)
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omg i think i like the same guy as my friend! i hate this, how do you stop having feelings for somebody? i can't control my feelings anymore and even though i know this is just an infatuation, i want him and at the same time i don't want my friend to be pissed at me! WHAT DO I DO??? (link)
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my best pal had a crush on this girl for like ages, then when it came time for the final year prom she somehow got my number and asked me to take her. being the selfish bastard that i was (and also the fact that she was extremely hot), i ended up taking her (i did have a concscience mind you! spent a month struggling over whether i should do it).
anyway 10 years later me and my best pal are the best of friends still (the girl is out of the picture though). so moral of the story is real friends stay forever, and always want the best for you. But that also applies to you too, you should also want the best for your friend, so depending on who this guy turns out being attracted if it turns out to be you then great! but if it turns out he's attracted to your friend I would back off and be happy for your friend.
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Ok. I have this friend from Canada and I Imed her and her aunt 'supposeofly' said that she passed out and then about an hour later i got back online and she said she didnt know who I was. I think she is lying. How Can I tell??? (link)
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hey maybe you could start up a new account and start chatting to her, try and probe her for questions that might indicate she's still got memory of stuff around the time she met you? like something like "hey have you seen that movie recently? ... " just to see if she can remember little stuff like that, ok thats probably not the greatest question but I'm sure you could think of something that would show she has her memory. Unless she somekind of "selective" memory where she ONLY forgotten you, which I very much doubt ...
g'luck
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ok there is a new song that i have heard a couple times and i was wonder can someone tell me who sings it and whats is it called. it goes " lets get n-a-s-t-y. and then the guy goes saying i am goin to bring out the freak in you. can someone help me out.. (link)
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I did a quick search you, try here
http://www.moron.nl/lyrics.php?id=46100&artist=Prince
Hot Wit You (nasty Girl Remix)
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whats the best way to get a guy out of my head? i went out on a date with this one guy..i met him 2 weeks before this..we had a great time..when we met and talked for hours..then we talked on the phone..we went out on a date..and he afterwards..he was all talking about a second date..and that he would call me later etc..well he called me the next day..left a message on my house phone..knowing that i wouldn't be home..i have a cell phone..and told me he had a good time etc..and thanked me for the nite before..and that he would talk to me later..but i never heard from him again..i called him a week later..to see how he was..it went straight to voicemail..he never returned my phone call..i think that i saw him a few weeks later..and when i walked past him..he totally turned and looked at me...so if hes totally gonna turn and look at me..why couldn't he make a 2nd date..like he talked about etc..how can i just get him out of my head..i doubt hes thinking of me still...even if he did come on totally strong...like he was totally into me..until he had the date..thanks.. (link)
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i reckon you may need to improve on your self confidence here, this is just one guy he's the one who's missed out. always remember you're the one doing the choosing and if he doesn't like what he sees then thats too bad, its his loss.
talk to people, anyone, random people on the street, the grocery man, the check out chick, waitress. anyone you happen to bump into. This will help raise your self confidence and help you realise that losing someone after only 1 date is not a big deal, and there will be many more dates to come ...
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