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how do i find good friends (who are not boring) in college if i'm shy and maybe slightly weird?
i'm female, 17
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join clubs, intermerial sports. find people who are interesting in the same sort of things you are. join study groups for some of your classes.
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I'm in my first semester of college right now. If you see some one sitting around doing nothing on campus, go up and start a conversation with them. If they're wearing a shirt of a band that you like, start conversation that way. Or talk about school, that's one thing every one has in common there. Ask them what they're majoring in or what classes they're taking.
If you think you're 'weird', then whatever you do is weird, don't do it. At least, not right away. First impressions are everything. If you walked up to some one and used "I wish a hurricane was named after me! It'd be called Hurricane _____" as a conversation starter, than yeah, that is weird. Just hold back any weird phrases you would usually say, and act normal. The reason I said the hurricane thing was, me and my best friend were joking about that earlier today. We like being stupid sometimes around each other. But when you meet new people, you need to get comfortable around them first, and not do the weird things you'd normally do right away.
Every one in college is in the same situation as you. Wanting more friends, and some one to talk to if they're just sitting there with nothing to do. No one likes to be alone. Just get some confidence. People can tell if you have confidence or not. Get confidence and walk up to some one new every day.
So basically, Just talk to new people. Start small conversations, which could turn into something bigger. And if one person doesn't work out, and they think you're 'weird', or you have nothing in common with them, then that's fine! Try again! There's soo many people out there on campus, and no one will remember you. You're practically anonymous in college. I rarely ever see the same person twice. So if some one were to come up to me and talk to me for a little bit, and we didn't hit it off, I'd probably never see them again. And if I did, it'd be like once every few weeks. I don't know how big your college campus is, but mine is pretty big..
And don't be worried. I've talked to a few people, and they both said that they started making friends their second semester of college, not their first. I Don't know what's different about them, but I am taking their word for it!
Good luck.
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Join a club that you have interestr in. Band is one of the best ways to make friends, but you need to find your interest. These people will like the same things you do, and you talk to them after. That's where you need to break some of your shyness by just going up and talking to them. That's the hard part.
The weirdness is fine, I doubt anyone cares about that. They friends will be interesting because they like what you do.
-Steven
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break from you shyness and get involved in clubs that do weird things you enjoy doing! i know a guy who is in a juggling club...its kinda weird but at least he knows a bunch of people who enjoy juggling too! <3
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Hey,
Which college do you go to?
Good Luck,
Advicegodesses2
P.S.Write back and tell me how my advice was and if it helped.
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