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mother of 2 needs serious ADVICE
hi..
Iam 31, i have 2 kids one 3 month old and a 9 year old ..my oldest has a different dad{happens}
i have been w this man for 5 years and he has always treated my son like his own..his father is somehow thru manipulation turning my son against my boyfriend all of a sudden he doesnt want him at any football games,, which he paid for if it wasnt for him he wouldnt even be on a team... his father and i have been apart for 10 years he has a girlfriend that calls me on the phone and says i can have him back and that sort of stuff i will call there house and she will hang up on me..i dont really kow how to go about handling this situation ... i think it boils down to his father being insecure about my son and his relationship since i have had the baby! why since then? like i said it has been 10 years! iam thinking of professional help! thanks ! torn mother/torn child
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This girlfreind that your ex's has is probably trying to start stuff with you, don't believe her. I have the same probablem with my ex husband. He has a girlfriend and I can't stand her. I remarried and my two children have the same father and my my youngest has a different father. Your ex is only jeoulous of you and he probably still loves you but he knows that he can never be with you again. Your son knows that your boyfriend had been there for him and he's probably only acting like that because that's his father and he doesn't want to hurt him. My children are the same why with their stepfather. You might want to get help for you and your son. I might help your relationship with your son. But always remember that your kids with alway love you and their father.Hope I helped. keemkick@hotmail.com. If you would like to chat some more.
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You obuviously need to seek for professional help for this serious situation,it's certainly ridiculous on how your son's father can't handle the fact that you have a boyfriend,doesn't want you to enjoy your life with him,he has no right to manipulate others like his son, and on top of that he has a girlfriend!You certainly need to have a long,good discussion with your son's father, tell him that you don't want anything with him,you respect that he is always there for your son but he should have some respect for other people,that your boyfriend didn't do anything to him so why is that he makes your son against your boyfriend?!He certainly needs a lot of help as well because why does he want to start to destroy someone who is innocent of his bad actions.
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that seems like a tough situation, but since he is the father of the child, i guess he does have say in it. he's putting a lot of stress onto you & that isn't right. it must be tough on your boyfriend, but i think the father of your older child is being completely immature about it & his gf shouldn't call you at all. he seems kind've jealous of your bf, not that he wants to be with you, but maybe because your son spends time with him as well, & maybe he wants to be the only male figure in your childs life. i guess that's reasonable, but he's doing it the wrong way. he should be able to see why you are with your bf and respect the relationship between you two. its based on trust, & he should believe that your bf is a good guy. the best thing to do is the 3 of you sit down & talk about it without his gf. she has nothing to do with it & that's rude of her to call you. you should be open with each other & talk about how you feel. i don't know the real reason since i don't know him, but that's juss my opinion. the only thing you can do really is juss sit down & talk to him about it. stay strong!
-hope that helped!♥
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