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I am currently attending the 3rd top private high school ($22,000 a year) in the country for the past 4 years (i'm in my freshman year, so this being my 5th..it also had a middle school + elementary school). But ever since I came here, all through the 4 years at this school, I have been miserable. Not because of the workload but because of the people. No one is friendly and it's EXTREMELY hard for me to make a few friends and its cliqie. I've tried to make more friends over & over again, but it hasn't worked. It's been like this for four years! Some people won't talk to me because of a rumor that I did something illegal and made a girl leave the school because of what I did, but it wasn't even true. They won't even believe me when I tell them it wasn't true. But the base line is that I have no friends at this school. So my problem is that my parents are having the HARDEST time deciding whether to take me out of my school or not because it's one of the best in the nation, gets ppl into ivy leagues, and yadda yadda. Also, my grades are affecting because of my loneliness at this school, I mean not that much, but still. So basically, I don't know what I should do. Move to a new school and sacrifice the benefits of the school I am currently going to, or stay here and be miserable for the rest of my high school years but most likely end up at a good college/university, or any other option that would work well. Thanks soo much, again!
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If you really REALLY have your heart set on attending an ivy league school, then the best thing to do is try to stick it out and stay in the school you're at.
But please, if you are truly miserable, leave the school. I attended a prestigious private school, too (not in the top 10, though). When I started I excelled at everything, but I just couldn't make friends. Everyone was already in a clique, and no one wanted me. They had all been going to that school since they started there, and I didn't start until sixth grade. People talked about me behind my back, made fun of me to my face, and shunned me the rest of the time. I had an "emotional breakdown" at the beginning of 9th grade that was so bad I was taken out of school until the next year. I could have avoided it if I had just changed schools. I would hate to see the same thing happen to someone else.
If I were you, I would leave the school. Use the money that your parents are saving by taking you out the school to spend on all kinds of extraciricular activites. Load up on community service stuff, sports, music, hobbies, etc. These things are lots of fun and look great on college applications.
Go to a school where you are happy and you can keep your grades up. Practice as much as you can for the SAT's. If you do good on SAT's, have lots of community service, some extracirriculars, and excellent grades your chances of getting into ivy league are just as good as where you are now.
Remember that you should be happy in school, not miserable. You don't need that school to get into ivy league, and you don't need ivy league to get a great job. No matter what, apply to several colleges when the time comes, including ivy league. Remember to have fun!
Good luck!
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You should try for a little longer on making friends if not then your parents should definatly take you out. Middle school is supposed to be fun. High school is supposed to be one of the best times of your life. Don't risk not having those memories. You need to have a fun time in school, sure the work part isn't fun, but everything else should be. Friends, school events like dances, football/ basketball/ soccer/ track meets and games missed out on not going to with friends because of this problem... I don't think so. Do yourself a favor and make friends. If this means going to a different school, so be it. Be outgoing if you can, if not then at least say hi and be very friendly to people. Have an edge and don't be afraid to be different. Please don't risk not having those memories.
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you might want togo some were else. that school is making you miserible you should not have to risk your feelings for the school.
hope i helped good luk
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I really think your parents should take you out of this school. It is really hard to go to school with the kind of pressure that you're describing. Usually, I'd tell people to stick it out, but you're different. Explain to your parents that you understand why it would be tough to be taken out of a really good school, but its really hard to do as well as you do when you have classmates hating you, and being alone. You can still end up at a really good college going to different high schools. I think for this decision, you can think about yourself.
-TheTeenGirl
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