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How do I ask?
Aight, I love this girl, we're both 13. Don't bother telling me that 13 year olds don't know love, and that it's only infatuation. I know what love is, and I know what infatuation is. And I don't give a damn about hot, sexy, etc. So anyway, I love her, I've told her that. She knows how madly in love with her I am. Problem is, she's not sure if she likes me back. Oh, sure, I've asked her places, like recently we went to the carnival as 'friends'. I mean, she's a great girl... hilarious, smart, amazing personality... what more could I ask for?
Anyway, the first school dance is coming up. I've never been to a dance. Yeah, last year my parents signed me up for a social dance program, but you don't ask people there, it's just to learn how to dance. And it's only like the cha-cha and everything you'll never use. So I really want to ask her there with no chance of rejection. Ever since I saw her as more than a friend I've been tormented by a sudden flurry of emotions. Love! Hate! Jealousy! Rejection! You name it! I don't want to face the bad ones again... for a while I was too depressed to make jokes---and I'm the class clown! So I don't want to be depressed again, what's a good way for me to ask her out? In short, I'm shy, I love her more than anything else, I don't give a damn about looks, she doesn't like me, I need to ask her to a dance somehow. Emphasis on shy. Thanks!
PS: Also there's this constant awkward silence... what are some good conversation starters? Thanks!
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Hi.I think that the best thing that you could do is try to express to her how you feel. There is an expression that my mom uses" Actions speak louder than words." If you really think that you love her then try harder and harder.About the dance thing, don't worry bout dancing you could just try to make her have fun.A good way to ask her out is to give her flowers and tell her how you feel, that is really romantic to girls.
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Honestly, you sound like a great guy and if this girl is really as good as you make her sound, she probably realizes it.
The thing to do now is swallow your pride and ask her to the dance -but- as friends so she knows that there isn't anything romantic about the situation and may be more at ease with you.
A good conversation starter would depend on the girl. Try to find out about a class/music/music she likes and ask her about it. Importantly, ask her questions about herself, only bring yourself in if you agree with something she says/does. People love being asked about themselves. She'll fall for you in no time.
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Well, she did go to the carnival with as friends.
If you have to put the friends stipulation on going to the dance then do it.
You want to get her to be a really good friend first. Buy her a single rose if she accepts. Be polite, treat her like a princess and you should be on your way to boyfriend/ girlfriend.
Shyness can be tough. I will let you do some reading on that one.
I think I have something in my bag of tricks for convo starters too.
Hang in there. You don't have to be officially boyfriend/ girlfriend to have fun. The more you are around the better she will feel about you. When you have her giggling at your every word...THEN you make the move. Take your time and do it right. Good luck on your mission. :)
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hey! so i know someone that did a way to ask someone to a dance and they like automatically said yes! well u go and tell her friends to take her to a certain spot at a certain time and put ur name plus hers with a ? in it and pop out of the poster with flowers and see what she says! well hope it works!
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no answer.. but best wishes.*
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Well, if she's not sure if she likes you back, you REALLY need to NOT put pressure on her by doing stuff like this. I understand you may think you know what love is, but you're way too young to be feeling this way over a girl. You shouldn't be depressed when you're in middle school, you should be worry free like normal middle schoolers and concentrating on being young. Seriously, play with toy guns, stay up all night on your Playstation 2, pick up an instrument, or go skateboard, I don't care but don't sit around and be depressed over a girl.
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I love answering tough questions, so I read through the list and decided to choose yours. Love is a lot of mixed emotions, your right.But I'm not sure why the girl you love is causing all these things. I think maybe you should say I need to talk with you. Pull her aside don't say anything in front of people because it may embarass her. Say I really just like you more then a friend. She'll either say, I like you more then a friend too or say ok thanks for telling me. The thanks for telling me means she wants to be friends still. The I like you more is a good sign to ask her to the dance. When you talk to her again, just be like can't wait to see you at the dance, say stuff like that. Also don't worry about dancing, it comes naturally just talk to her alot at the dance but let her hang out with her friends. But if she says she just wants to be friends, I think you should go to the dance a lone and then at a slow song just ask her to dance it will be really cute don't worry just relax! Good Luck anyother questions just write me a message! ;)
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Molly
Age 14
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aww you sound like a reallly sweet guy..how long have yall known each other? maybe she just needs some more time to think about you two being together..but good luck..IM me if you wanna talk!
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Hey there! Well if you she loves you back you shouldn't worry about all these things! Just take a few deep breaths, look her in the eye and ask her out! Some creative ways: write it in on a chit of paper and slip it in her locker, or send her a card/flowers that say "will you go with me to the dance?" in the card. If you have trouble asking her, then before you ask her get a friend to go up to her and say, "Ohh I heard that (your name) is gonna ask you to the dance today"..just so she's prepared. Or maybe even call her and ask her...I reccomend this one the most. That way it's 1) not face to face 2) better than IM'ing because she can hear your voice 3) you don't have to deal with the shame of embarassment face to face IF she rejects you (which I'm sure she won't!). Or you could ask her over an IM. That way the face-to-face interaction is not there and neither is the ackwardness. Also, over AIM, if she rejects you, you don't have to deal with it face to face there. Just be like..."hey omg that'd be soo awesome if you & I went together for the dance..I mean that'd be great, what do you think?" Just remember, if she rejects you, SHE'S the one missing out, not you. Good luck!
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