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i have been dancing ballet for about 12 years. i love it. it always gives me something to do and it keeps me in shape. about a month ago i was in a horrific car accident. the car flipped over in a ditch and killed the driver. who was my best friend. i broke my back and now i am parilized from my waist down. i will never be able to walk again. i will never dance again. that is what hurts the most. no i dont feel sorry for myself because i know what happend to my friend casey. i miss her so much and i just feel like there was more that i could have done to keep her from loosing control of the car. and i have a boyfriend that i have been dating for 7 months. he comes to see me everyday and he occaisonally brings me flowers. i am 17 and he asked me to marry him. of course i told him yes. and we are getting married next year in august. i will not be able to have children .. and ladies you all know thats the worst feeling in the world. my fiance wants to adopt. and i am all for it. i just wouldnt be a regular mom that can hold her kids. that upsets me so much. i dont know what to do.
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it must be hard for you but things happen for a reason and if you do adopt your kid/s will love you weather you can walk dance and do everthing that other mums can.but that will love you for you you shouldnt think that there was somthing else you should have done because its not yourfolt and your man oviously loves you and care for you alot just look at the positives coming up and not the bad things that have happened good luck hope i have helped
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*hugs* It's okay. You sound like you're dealing with this pain. You are very blessed to have a fiance like that! The part about the worst feeling in the world...I'm not telling you how to feel, but I just think it's a little odd how women pretty much identify themselves by the fact that they can give birth! Women can do other things too! Even women who have been paralyzed are capable of many things. Anyways, later in life when I want to have children, I am choosing to adopt. There are so many benefits! For one thing, people are over-populated and there are so many children whose parents don't want them. It solves to problems when they adopt. And for those who can't have babies, it means even more. And you WOULD be a regular mom. The children will know you as your mother. They won't see just some handicapped woman...they will see the woman who loves them and takes care of them and is strong enough to overcome anything in life. If children have a strong mother, it will inspire them even more. Love isn't defined by your ability to walk. Sure, walking with your kids would be fun for them and you...but...you can have your child sit on your lap and give him or her a fun ride on your wheelchair! =) Make the most of your situation, because like I said...you are BLESSED!
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Adoption is a good way to go, but don't rush into things if you are uncomfortable with it. Getting married so young is a big deal in itself...so you should wait at least a few years before you adopt so that there's not so much stress at first.
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Oh, I'm so sorry...but congrats to your engagement! I think you should adopt...and just think how wonderful it is that you're giving a child hope that he/she might have never had! You can still hold your child...and I honestly think that your disability will not affect your child at all! You will also make your friend Casey very proud to see that what happened hasn't held you back! Good luck and I hope I helped! ♥ caitie
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That's so horrible for you and your friend.
Here's my advice: Adopt like you are planning to, and be the mest mother you can be. There is an overpopulation of babies anyway, and there are starving orphans all over the world. Adopting is actually much more practical, because you are giving hope a child that might not ever have parents! I bet it's really just as amazing to adopt than to have your own kids. Good luck!
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