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i need some good advice to give to my little brother, he is madly in love with a girl alot younger than him. she is 16 and he will be 22 in dec. they dont have a physical relationship, that i know of, god i hope they dont, but anyway he has asked me if i think it is wrong to be in love with her. i am trying to not be to sisterly and bossy about my answer to him i just need some advice on how to tell him how i feel about it. i think it is wrong, but at the same time i want him to be happy. please help
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I think you should tell your brother what you think. Because in the long run if your brother get's involed with her and her parents don't like if he can get into alot of trouble. He only thinks he's in love with her but he probably isn't he needs to get out and meet people his own age or older. Maybe you could help him before it's to late.
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Kay, well actually hun what i think you should do is. tell your brother that you are happy for him and you want him to love and be loved. But at the same time you dont really agree with his choice of a younger women.but also he needs to follow his heart.And you too need to follow yours!
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personally, i think age is NOTHING but a number. but its good that your worried about it. im only 16 and i wouldnt go out with a 22 year old, but you never know it could be something deeper then numbers... so my advice is if you know of a physical relationship i'd tell him you think its wrong because legally its rape..but if you know theres not one i'd stay out of it. ♥
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just tell him calm and cool. say something like 'i dont knwo if you should be in love with her. shes kinda young. btu ya know i dont care. i just want you to be happy.' good luck
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Yes, it is definetly wrong. Thank God you know that. I think that you should tell him that he needs to find an adult his age, not a girl under 18. Tell him that he can do way better than than 16, because if he can't find a woman his age, then he needs to grow up. I'm very sorry if this hurts you, but its true. A man needs to find a woman, not a girl.
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Since she is under 18, I would suggest telling your brother to proceed with caution if they do decide to take their relationship to the next level.
Personally, I don't think an age difference is wrong. My husband is quite a few years older than me and we have a great marriage.
As for your actual question, this is a touchy situation. Tell him that personally you think the age difference will be a problem, but it is his choice. Pick your words with care and try not to sound like you're attacking his girlfriend, even subtly. Sometimes things come across a lot differently than we intend. Let him know that whatever his decision, you'll be there for him. He needs your support more than he needs advice here. Just my opinion.
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I am dating someone 4 years older than I am and I know how it is. Don't make either of them feel uncomfortable because they like each other, that would make things worse. As long as they don't have a physical relationship then it's fine, they aren't doing anything wrong. If it bothers you that much, tell him that you don't approve but if it makes him happy.
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I know you want him to be happy, but he also needs to know what's RIGHT for him. And i think that's too much of an age difference so i'm right there with ya. Just tell him that in your opinion, 6 years difference is alot and people change a tonnn during those years of their lives. He might totally love her but he also needs to consider what's right for this girl. She probably needs somebody closer to her age who's in high school and has the same problems and can relate, ya know??? So try just telling him this and think more of what's right then his happiness. I'm sure there are a ton of girls who would love to date him and are closer to his age. Well, good luck with that and hope i helped some!!!
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