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homecoming in 2 wks!
OK so Last year, I went to homecoming and no one asked me to dance. Everytime there was a slow dance, I always stood off to myself. I felt embaressed/left out/ stupid..so I don't know if I should go to homecoming thisyear. All my friends are popular and they're like "come! it'd be fun" but I NEVER have a dance partner..and I've been to alot of dances. What should I do??
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First of all...you're not ugly. Nobody is. Everyone has at least some natural features that look nice. If you want some tips, drop a word in my inbox.
If it makes you feel embarassed/ leftout/stupid, then I don't think you should go. Dances should be fun, not torturous. If you don't feel good at a dance, then you should stay away from it. Trust me, I've been there, and I know it feels bad. You can stay at home and hang out or go to a movie or a restaurant. When you get back to school, you can try and get to know some of the guys at your school, and the next time a dance comes around, you can go and ask one to dance. If the boys are jerks and not worth meeting, then I don't think you should feel bad about not dancing with them in the first place.
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heyy<3 I really think you should go to homecoming this year again even though last years went bad. Who cares if you don't have a partner to dance with you. Go dance with your friends. You shouldn't not just go cause you don't have anyone as long as you think you will have fun with your friends dont ruin a perfectly good chance just cause you don't have a partner. Maybe you can ask one of your friends to ask one of her guy friends if they wanted to go to homecoming with you cause you said you don't have guy friends. I am sorry if this doesn't help you.
~Lauren
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You have to love yourself for other people to love you. Show confidence in yourself, that is key, you don't have to be egotistical or self-centered, just learn to love yourself enough to have no problems putting yourself out there, and if you do end up sitting around on the sidelines, you probably won't be the only one, look for another loner to atand around and chat with.
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well you can just dance with one of your friends or dance in like the middle of people so it doesnt look like you have ones to go with or you can ask someone to go to homecoming with you. if its faster music this year than yea why not you friends
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Well do like i always do...even if no one asks you to dance just go there and have fun!!
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Not go.
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well i think you should make arrangments before you go, with someone you can dance with a friend or someone you like ask that person to the dance. But definatily go.
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maybe you should ask a guy friend to go with you as dates so then you wont have to find someone when the music starts. thats what i would do. try to have fun! <3
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I feel your pain. When I was in highschool, I had exactly the same problem that you do. My solution was not to go another time, which I felt at the time was the best, nay the only, way to deal with feeling out in the cold, miserable and unpopular. My question to you is- how far are you truly unpopular, and how far are you self isolating? Please don't take offense- I speak from experience, for I was a true self isolator, harshly rebuffing those who made friendly overtures and alienating people who would have been my friends.
I'm not saying that you're the same as me- it could be that you are genuinely and unjustly overlooked, in which case it's time to take your friends gently to task. If they truly care about and value you, they won't let you sit on the sidelines while they go off and enjoy themselves(indeed if they habitually do this, then they're no friends of yours). I know it's embarrasing to ask for help in social situations, and nowhere does the law of the jungle more clearly and crudely operate than at a dance. Still, it's one way of discovering who your true friends are. If, however, you really don't fancy going, don't! Wait until you get to university, which is where most people make the friends who will last them the rest of their life. The dances there tend to be more fun and civilised, places where you get a chance to socialise with those who realy matter to you. Good luck, take care, Lucretia x.
P.S. I see that in your additional info you describe yourself as "pretty ugly". I apologise for the toe-curling cliche, but both ugliness and beauty truly come from within. Or if you find that hard to believe, understand this- even someone who is beautiful can be the most miserable and lonely person in the world if all that their friends and lovers value them for is their exterior , which is constantly subject to wear and damage. Again, wait, give yourself time, and pursue what you love to do, a hobby, anything. Immerse yourself in situations, and others will be drawn to you. Truly, it works.xx
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