|
Pregnant?
Okay, i've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 months now. we had sex a few weeks ago, and we used a condom, and it had spermicidle. I usually start my period around the end of the month, and tomorrow is sept. 1. Since school just started, and i've been in a lot of fights with my parents, i'm hoping its just stress. and also, my period is never really ever the same, but th elast few times its been around the end of the month. I've been throught he symptoms, if you will, of pregnancy, and i hhave a few questions about those too. The breast tenderness? is that just like, all the time tenderness, or when you touch it? and also, the heavy discharge. i had that right after we had sex, like the next day, but i havn't had it since. I've always been a little moody and upsetable, so i dunno if that makes a difference. I'm going out of my mind, and i'm starting ot have dreams. could someone please help me! thank youso much, and sorry its so long. by the way, i'm 17.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions?
Chill out and just mellow out.
brest tenderness happens to be different with everyone.
The heavy discharge... well that could have happened from all the percautions. Or just natraully.
The mood swings are normal for teens and since you just started school that could be it.
If your nervous go to planned parenthood or buy a pregnancy test. Stay calm and since you said your PMS is never normal dont be soo worried because it might just be late.
]
As difficult as it is, you need to try to calm down. Stressing over the pregnancy will just keep your period from coming.
The breast tenderness varies with different women. When I was pregnant, my breasts felt fuller and were sore all the time.
The discharge was probably a combination of the spermicide from the condom and your own natural lubrication.
With the moodiness, again it varies by woman. Some women are fine; others cry through the entire pregnancy. I'm normally moody to start with, but it got severely worse when I was pregnant.
I would give it a couple week to see if your symptoms continue and whether your period comes. If it doesn't come by then and the symptoms continue, I would suggest buying a home pregnancy test or going to the health department or a Planned Parenthood office to be tested.
]
Firstly Don't panic! I know its easy for me to say but the likelihood is your not pregnant. You did take appropriate precautions, your periods are not Necessarily regular and stress Definitely can delay it. Try to stop worrying and de-stress and see if you come on in the next few days. if you don't you will have to take a pregnancy test. If it comes out posative you need to see a DR. and make the decission about what to do. Remember you don't have to tell your parents anything but you carn't go through it alone, you and your boy friend have to do it Together. good luck and let us know what happens. DERFEL&DANNII xx
]
One. Breast tenderness is a symptom of not only pregnancy, but your period as well.
Two. Heavy discharge can also come before you get your period. And, after sex as well.
Three. Stressing out about this, will only make your period later.
Four. Get informed, if you are not already, on the menstrual cycle. Very few are 28 days regular. Take the first day of your last period, add about two weeks. This is when you are most fertile. There are calculators online to help you. Google yourself. Type in "Pregnancy Symptoms".
Five. Talk to your mom. Ask her about birth control. It's not very expensive. However, birth control takes a month to actually start working. But, the doctor, or clinic, will tell you that if if you take it on time that it's 99% effective.
Six. If it's been a few weeks, then you are eligible to take a pregnancy test. I would do this, prior talking to your mom. Just to get that stress off your back. So, reverse Five and Six.
In my opinion, you're probably not pregnant. As long as the condom didn't break. No, it's not always effective. But, I still don't think you are.
]
First of all, take a deep breath or two. Do not try to imagine the worst.
You will need to talk to your Mom. I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but it is actually what is needed. It doesn't matter what you do in life, or how mad you have made your Mom. She will always love you no matter what.
When you approach your Mom, tell her straight out that you need her, and to please not get angry with you. This should open her ears, and her heart. Starting from there, and tell her you think you might be pregnant. It may shock her, but give her a minute to vent without saying anything. Things should be fine from then on out.
Don't worry about the fights you and your family have had in the past, or on the day you talk with her. (Please make this ASAP) It is easy to vent anger at someone you love. It is easier for them to accept one's "vents" of anger than a stranger could.
I wish only the best for you. Remember, the best friends you will ever have in your life is your parents. No matter what you do, they will never hold it against you.
Ms Ask Me
]
For now please try and relax. Stressing over this will only cause your period to be later. Breast tenderness is not just a sign of pregnancy but also a sign that your period is about to begin. The heavy discharge you experience after sex was probably just your body’s reaction to the lubricants and spermicide on the condom and having something foreign inside you.
Very few people are regular especially in their teens. Try to relax and let your body do what it needs too. Although there is always a chance you might be pregnant if you are having sex, it sounds unlikely.
]
The thing is. Breast tenderness is also a sign that your period is getting ready to start. If you aren't regular anyway (and few really are right on the money) I wouldn't worry to much about it right now. Here are a couple of sites that may help you out though. :)
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
]
More Questions: |