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confused
okay I am a lesbian and I'm in love with my girlfriend. I'm pretty sure she loves me to because she tells me all the time. Well she just found out that she is about to have her ex-boyfriend's baby and now she has to pic between one of us. I think of part of her still loves him and there's a good chance she could pick him, but at the same time i feel there's a good chance she could pick me. Everytime i try to bring up the subject about picking which one she wants to be with she gets REAL REAL mad, so I just drop it to save the yelling. I feel like I'm being tagged along, like I'm sitting here waiting around for no reason. Almost like she's only with me to keep me occupied or something. I've lsot all my friends over her and now everyone thinks it's a joke because they keep sayins he's obviously gonna pick the guy. I'm so confused. I have no idea if I should stay with her or not. I do care alot about her but am I making a mistake by staying with her? I need some advice. ANY advice! I'm lsot and don't know what to do.
signed- COnfUSeD*
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well, im not in the same exact situation, but it was close, anyway, for me, i had to pick between two people, either the boyfriend i had for 4 1/2 months or a new girl i liked, i picked the girl and decided that my b/f would always be there as a friend and its been working out,he soon found another girl and we're doing awesome, i say, for you..
the best advice is give her time and love
just keep loving her the way you have been and theres no way she'd pick him.i mean, you guys can stay together and she and him can find ways to work it out, just give her time, comfort her and just be there for her,its probably 3x harder for her to go through, than you, right?
hope i helped
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Sweetie,
All you can do is wait out the time to see what she picks. She may pick you or her ex-boyfriend. But if you think that it is a mistake being with her break up with her. If you don't know what to do then just take time away and think
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alright well if she REALLy loves you then she'll pick yu , dont worry that much about it yu and her culd take care of the baby. Just talk to her about it and ask her if that wuld be a good idea or if she likes that idea..if yu guys love eachother that much then yu shuld be able to tlk about things liek this.
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i'm am so sry this is happening to you my dear there are many things i could say but i've picked this. i say you go to her after you know exactly what you want to say and are clear headed like maybe take a walk an thnk about it. but then go to her and say you will not scream or yell or say anything until i'm done speaking then when she's quite you might say that you feel your being strung along and it is her choice but if you are just stringing me along then tell me. and this will be vey hard and i'm sorry you have to go through this but i think you will do great good luck and tell me what happens
my heart goes out to you
striperella
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I think the best thing for you to do is to just tell her that you're sorry for pressuring her to choose, but that eventually you're going to need her to make up her mind. If you really want to stay with her, I think you'll have a better chance if you're nice and you don't push her for an answer. I think you should also tell her that just because she's pregnant with his child, doesn't mean she has to be in a relationship with him again. A lot of times, pregnant girls think they have to stay with the father of the child, because they think they'll be supported and cared for that way. But that's not always the case. In the end, the choice will be up to her, and all you can really do is care about her and be there for her no matter what she decides. Good luck, and I hope things work out well for all of you involved in this.
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You need to tell her straight out that these are your feelings that she is messing with, and you would like to know what is going to happen between you two. Explain to her how you feel, and how her just dragging you along is making you feel. I can understand why you feel the way you do, b/c nobody likes to be lead on! She needs to make up her decision, and you need to make that clear to her. Let her know how much you care about her, and don't be afraid to talk about your feelings. If she gets mad at you for trying to tell her how you feel, that is ridiculous. Ask her to tell you exactly what she is thinking, and feeling. Tell her that you are going to be there for her no matter what her decision is, unless that isn't true. If you really care about her, but she wants to go back to her ex b/f, just try to be her friend, unless that is too hard for you to do, b/c some people just find it too difficult to be friends with people who they have dated. Good Luck!
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It's alright to be confused. If I were you I'd be totally confused as well. This is something that you and her both need to figure you. You need to have a converstation with her and see what will work out best. You guys can still be together even if she is having her ex boyfriends baby. Or you guys could always take a break from eachother, maybe that will be best. It'll make her realize if she does really love you, because she won't be with you. Being on a break does some people good. It makes they realize just how much that other person means to them when they can't have them around. Be there for her through everything though. She's going to need a shoulder to lean on, I'm sure. Talk to her about what is on your mind, she's your girlfriend so she should listen to what you have to say. Talking will solve a lot of problems. So I suggest having a good converstation about everything that is bothering you. Just don't bring up the subject by asking "who are you going to pick?", that's not a good converstation starter. Explain to her that you really love her and you don't want to lose her. Then ask her if she still has feelings for her ex and so on.
♥ Krissy
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