E-mail: xobscuredx@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Maryland
Age: 17
Member Since: August 17, 2005
Answers: 9
Last Update: October 7, 2005
Visitors: 1332
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O.K. I hate cleaning but thats how i get money.So how do i get to like cleaning? (link)
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Definitely listen to music while you're cleaning. I do that sometimes when I'm cleaning, and it puts me in a better mood. But the best motivation for cleaning is that you wouldn't want to live in a dirty house, and cleaning makes everything look (and smell) fresher and thus the atmosphere is much more comfortable to be in. I assume you meant that you're cleaning your own house, and not other people's houses, since if you didn't like cleaning you probably wouldn't take a job that revolves around it. So when you have to clean, imagine what your place would look like if you didn't clean it. It would be gross beyond belief. That might be a good incentive to get things done. Good luck with the cleaning. Best wishes.
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every friend i have, i talk about, except one who is a grade younger than me. i talk good things about her but sometimes she can really make me mad and sometimes i get teased cause shes only in 6th grade and i need to "get some friends my own age". there this girl i really like in my grade but im like the only person in my skewl that likes her, and im trying to fit in so i pretend i dont really like her. i talk about everyone. its really bad! im a real bitch. i want a best friend. its pathetic!
please tell me what i can do. thank you (link)
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Heya babe. From what you posted, it seems to me like you might be saying that you want to change. If so, that's wonderful. You feel like you have to be fake and mean in order to fit in with everyone around you. But I bet you're not a mean person inside. So is that the problem? You want true friendship, and you want to surround yourself with nice people, but at the same time you want to be socially accepted. I understand that.
When I was your age, I got picked on a lot. The popular crowd either hated me, or just ignored me, depending on the day. But I had really great friends, who made me smile. So it was all worth it to me. If I could go back and be different, possibly change myself so that I could have been popular, I wouldn't do it. I'm happy with my experiences, and the lovely friends that I had.
My advice to you is to take some time and think. Really imagine yourself, in the life that you wish you had. If you see yourself having true friendships with people, then that's what you should aim for. All you have to do, is tell yourself that you want real friendships, and not the fake ones that do nothing but make you feel bad about yourself. You deserve better than that. And there are people out there who deserve to have you as a friend, as long as you can change your way of thinking and be nicer. Which I know you can do, because you sound like a sweet girl.
Oh, and if you really like the girl in your grade that everybody else seems to not like, then be her friend anyway. Don't let other people's opinions stop you from being friends with people that you care about. You'll end up missing out on some really great times with people who care about you and love you for who you truly are on the inside. Good luck darling, I really hope you find yourself, and some true friends that can make you smile. Best wishes.
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sometimes, even if i'm having a good day and everything, i just feel depressed. i feel like no one likes me. then i think that i should get really skinny (why? i have no idea!) i just think... tomorrow i'm going to wake up at 5, run, exercise, and shower... (and stuff like that) and so i'd get really skinny... (weird, i know) and other times i *think* about sutting my wrists, i never have and i'm scared... so do i have a case of depression??? (link)
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Hey darling. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I'm glad that you came here for advice..that was a very smart idea. However, nobody on here can diagnose you with depression. If you're having thoughts of harming yourself, or any thoughts that you know might be dangerous to your physical or mental well being (unnecessary diets, over-exercising), then you should definitely tell your parents or guardians and get them to schedule an appointment for you with a psychologist. You may or may not be clinically depressed. You could also show symptoms of other psychological disorders. The point is, you should try to get help from somebody who is a professional and knows what they're doing.
Don't worry, babe. I know a lot of times people associate seeing a psychologist with being crazy. But that's not the case at all. A lot of people out there could use some help from a psychologist; be it the diagnosis and treatment of a disorder, or just going and talking to somebody who won't judge them. Admitting that you need help doesn't make you weak. It makes you an intelligent person who cares about herself and wants to get better.
Please don't make any assumptions about your mental health until you have seen a psychologist who may or may not diagnose you with something. And don't take to heart anything that people say on here, because unless they're licensed in the psychology field, they are in no position to be diagnosing you with anything.
Also, I really doubt that people don't like you. I'm sure you're a wonderful girl. Good luck to you, and I hope that you get some help and are feeling better very soon. Love ya darling. Best wishes.
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i love making brownies and i have a great receipe What do i do with it? (link)
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If you want to share your recipe, you could submit it to allrecipes.com. It's a really great website where users can submit their own recipes and find new ones to try. When you submit a recipe to the website, people can comment on it, so you'll know exactly how well it went over with people. Of course, you should only submit it there if you don't mind other people using it. Good luck, I hope you find a way to show people your talent. :)
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i get really shy around guys. what can i do??
its probably because i went to a girls school. i'm 17/f. (link)
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Hey babe. It's totally normal to be shy around guys (if that's the gender you prefer). Just remember that everybody gets a little insecure at times, including boys. So if you're a little nervous, maybe the guy is too. Overcoming shyness is really difficult, but just know that you're never the only one around you that's feeling a bit jittery. Like Eva said, just be yourself. I'm sure you're an awesome girl, so don't put too much pressure on yourself. You'll impress plenty of guys just by letting your amazing personality shine through. Good luck darling.
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what is hte best type of birth control. my fiance and i want to have sex but i told him not until i am on birth control. he said "we can use condoms" and i told him no, b/c i don't want an accident. im 18 and i dont need a baby right now. he understands, but i want to have sex with him so bad. that is why i want to get on birth control, but i dont know what kind of birth control is the best. i have looked into the different kinds and i am down to the pill, the monthly shot, and the three month shot. which is better or any advice on which one is hte best one to use. what are side effects and thigns like that. please help me out! (link)
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I know absolutely nothing about birth control. But I would like to say though, that nobody on here is in the position to tell you what method of birth control is best for you. Only a doctor who is familiar with you and your health needs can tell you which form of birth control you should use. My advice to you would be to schedule an appointment with a doctor and ask about it. Mention any concerns you may have, and ask any questions that pop into your mind. Your sexual health is an important thing..which is why I don't think you should be asking people on here, since everybody is different and something that works well for one person might not be the best option for another. One more thing, though. Remember that birth control doesn't protect against STD's, and that unless you both have been tested for all STD's and are both not having sex with anybody else, you should still use condoms even after you've found a birth control plan that fits your life. Hope that helped. Stay safe, darling.
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Whenever I try to upload a picture onto photobucket or freewebs or anything, my browser freezes up and an 'error' popup comes up.
I thought it must have been something to do with the internet but I actually opened up My Documents on the desktop and opened up My Pictures from there .. and THAT freezed up. So it's definitely something wrong with my computer, internally.
I run spybot search&destroy AND adaware but that never comes up with more than a few things and it never helps my computer.
Does anyone know what I can do to fix this? Not being able to get into My Documents is REALLY inconvenient. Is there some kind of program I can get to fix it .. ?
Thanks in advance. :) (link)
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I've never had that exact problem, but I know that when I had viruses a few years ago, I was getting A LOT of error messages. If you don't have anti-virus software, then you need to get it. I use McAfee VirusScan, and it works wonderfully, but you should check out some different anti-virus protection and see what you think would work best for you. And FYI: Don't try to look up free anti-virus software. I did that when I knew I had viruses, and I downloaded a free trial of something called Stop Sign or Stop Scan..and it scanned my computer but didn't actually remove anything (you had to buy the product for it to do that.) So while free stuff is nice, you do get what you pay for. And anti-virus protection is REALLY important.
It could also be a memory problem. If you don't delete your temporary internet files and cookies regularly, you should probably start doing that. If you're using internet explorer, go to Tools and then Internet Options. In the section called "Temporary Internet Files", click "Delete Cookies" and then click OK when it asks if you want to delete them. Next, click "Delete Files". A prompt will come up, asking you if you want to delete them. Check the box that says "Delete all offline content", and then click OK. It might take awhile to delete everything, so be patient. And don't worry about deleting things, it's only stuff that you don't need.
Remember that the most important thing that you need to do is get some decent anti-virus software. Kudos to you for running Ad-Aware. It's a great program. Keep that up. :) Good luck with your computer problems. And I'm sorry my reply was so long..I hope it was somewhat helpful.
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okay I am a lesbian and I'm in love with my girlfriend. I'm pretty sure she loves me to because she tells me all the time. Well she just found out that she is about to have her ex-boyfriend's baby and now she has to pic between one of us. I think of part of her still loves him and there's a good chance she could pick him, but at the same time i feel there's a good chance she could pick me. Everytime i try to bring up the subject about picking which one she wants to be with she gets REAL REAL mad, so I just drop it to save the yelling. I feel like I'm being tagged along, like I'm sitting here waiting around for no reason. Almost like she's only with me to keep me occupied or something. I've lsot all my friends over her and now everyone thinks it's a joke because they keep sayins he's obviously gonna pick the guy. I'm so confused. I have no idea if I should stay with her or not. I do care alot about her but am I making a mistake by staying with her? I need some advice. ANY advice! I'm lsot and don't know what to do.
signed- COnfUSeD* (link)
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I think the best thing for you to do is to just tell her that you're sorry for pressuring her to choose, but that eventually you're going to need her to make up her mind. If you really want to stay with her, I think you'll have a better chance if you're nice and you don't push her for an answer. I think you should also tell her that just because she's pregnant with his child, doesn't mean she has to be in a relationship with him again. A lot of times, pregnant girls think they have to stay with the father of the child, because they think they'll be supported and cared for that way. But that's not always the case. In the end, the choice will be up to her, and all you can really do is care about her and be there for her no matter what she decides. Good luck, and I hope things work out well for all of you involved in this.
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this girl imed me saying my bf wants to break up with me for her then i showed him and this is what he worte..i rele like this girl but she has a boyfriend so since you liked me and i sorta liked you because your rele hot;-) and then i told her that i would brake up wit you because i dont no my mind lost control and it hasnt been the best day for me and i got mad at her because she went out wit the kid so now that why she showed you all that and i want to say im rele rele rele rele rele rele rele sorry and i will understand if you wanna brake up wit me just dont show any1 else this because then ill see 5 million different pop ups and i just wanna say i made a mistake of sayin that shit ....then he asked me if im breakin up with him i told him i dont no and hes like to make you feel better i really dont want you to i made a mistake and i learned from it and i just wanted to say i love you and i told him i love him 2 and in his profile on aim it says baby i never wanna hurt you again i love you BUT my friends say hes gonna hurt me again so what should i do? PS i dont realy want a boy friend i just want him to kiss me but i dont really no when or where we will hang out. I REALLY WANT HIM TO KISS ME AND I NO HE WILL BUT I DONT NO WHAT TO DO so can you help me with all the shit i just said
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I totally agree with what the people before me have said. If he could be so superficial and stupid then he doesn't deserve to have you. It sounds to me like he has quite a bit of drama surrounding him. It's going to be up to you whether or not you want that in your life. Just please remember that you and your happiness are what's most important. Never doubt yourself, and never lose your self-respect. One more thing. Ever heard the quote "No one is worth your tears, and the one who is won't make you cry"? Well, I've found it's actually a pretty true saying. I hope things get better for you soon. Bye hun.
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