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My sister dosent love me...........
Hey,
ok i'll get to the point. I didnt even know i had a sister until i was 9.. actually know one in my family knew i had a sister, and my sister didnt even know I existed.. See she's my half sister, my dad had sex with his old girlfriend when he got outta college, but he didnt even know she was pregnant. So when i was 9 i met her for the first time, and then she left, because she thought when she first met me and my, err, OUR dad she thought it would be JUST us, but our WHOLE family was there, could you blame them? someone new was entering our disfunctional family. So after an hour or so, when we all went shopping, she left with her boyfriend, she didnt leave a note or anything... she ran away. So i was sad, then i talked to her online, and she said she was mad at my dad for trying to force her to go to College, but she had a fine job. But now she never calls because she thinks my dad will answer the phone, and she talks to my aunt, but she never gets online, and she never talks to me-- ever! I know it's sorta like loving a stranger, but I still love her, but how could she love me? i'm pretty much a stranger, i was alive 9 years and she didnt even know that i was alive-- much more her sister. And the last time i saw her was 2 years ago and she didnt even talk to me really.. a little "hi" every once in a while then, but other than that, she didnt do anything or say anything to me. I know she dosent love me, or my dad, what do i do? i love her so much, how do i get her to love me back and visit and stuff? it's been YEARS! i'll rate high!
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You may just have to keep hounding her about it. Like you say, you are pretty much strangers. I think asking your aunt for help would be a good idea since she does seem to keep in contact with her. As people get older, family sometimes becomes more important. Hopefully it does with her too. Just keep after her and one day she will talk to you. :)
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well i dont have much expierience with this but ill try to help,
some people just don't adjust to change and in this case i think that shes so mad at you dad she's so wrapped in it that she can't see there are people in your family that love her and want her there
good luck
striperella
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Sometimes there's nothing you can do. You can't change a person if they don't want to change. And you can never, ever, MAKE anyone love you.
I hate it when I have to tell people things like that. Unfortunately, it's true.
But don't give up all hope. You love your sister, and that's real. As long as you love her, there's a chance that she will come to love you.
Actually, she may even love you all NOW, and just not realize it yet. The human heart is complicated.
Don't push, and don't annoy her. But when you have the chance, be thoughtful and show her that you care about her. On the rare times that you see her, show her how happy you are to see her! It would be perfectly fine to send her cards for her birthday and for major holidays; include personal notes, and tell her that you miss her. Try not to be creepy about it; if she feels that you're stalking her, she'll pull away. Just use your best judgement, and try not to worry too much about it.
It might never happen. It might take years. But it IS possible that the time will come when she'll feel the need for more closeness with your branch of the family.
In the meantime you might also want to talk to your father about the situation, if you haven't already.
Good luck!
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Your aunt could help you by talking to her that you love her no matter what even though she is your half sister.Tell your aunt to convince her so you could talk to her or even have her visit you.Don't get upset have faith she can't be mad at you she's probably just confused,and feeling sad as well as you are to find out about something so shocking.If she doesn't talk to you right away give her time she's affected by this whole situation she needs it think things out throughly.Relax everything will be fine.
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