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A couple of weeks ago I was invited to go to the NJ shore with one of my best friends, Sam. I was very excited...each of her siblings is bringing a friend, and she chose me to go for the week with her & her family! Just today, however, she called me and was like "I just found out Catherine is coming too, is that all right?" Obviously I said yes...I wasn't going to be rude & tell her no. However Catherine is Sam's friend (their families are good friends too) and she does not go to my school. I have met her before, & she is very nice, but I really don't know her well. To be honest, I am not sure that I am so psyched to go anymore, because she is going to have Catherine there too. I know it sounds mean, & I have nothing against Catherine, but it just seemed rude that Sam never mentioned she would be there before. I BELIEVE SAM'S MOM INVITED CATHERINE'S WHOLE FAMILY, WHICH IS WHY I AM UNCOMFORTABLE. HER PARENTS ARE SORT OF "WILD" THEY DRINK A LOT AND ARE BASICALLY PARTY ANIMALS. THIS MAKES BOTH ME & MY MOM UNCOMFOTABLE. ALSO, MY DRIVING TEST IS SOON, AND I WILL NOT BE ABLE TO PRACTICE FOR THE WHOLE WEEK IF I GO. ALSO, MY SISTER & COUSINS ARE GOING FOR A FEW DAYS TO MY GRANDPARENTS HOUSE, WHICH I WOULD MISS OUT ON. I honestly don't know if I want to go anymore...I mean I am sure it would still be fun but it is just not the same. Do you think it is silly for me to be upset? Should I just go, or should I decline? I do have reasons (as noted above -more than one) of why it might not be the best idea to go, but I would also feel like sam would be upset if I didn't go. What should I do, and how do I talk to her (either way i need to talk to her).
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i*ve actually been in a situation similar to that i went to mi friend Logan*s lakehouse with mi best friend at the time angie and mi ex ryan (which yeah wus a little weird but cool haha neway) Logan*s family was really good friends with this WEEEIRD family.. the mom wus like a drug addict and her daughter n friend were gonna be there and i knew that logan was really close with them. When i found out i was PISSED but it actually turned out to be really fun! I think you should go and just make the best of it, i doubt catherine will ruin your time and i*m sure you n sam will get sum alone time. But i bet you*d regret not going if you declind. About talking to her i think you should just be like yeah i*m excited to go but with catherine there will we get anytime to just hang out me n you and maybe tell her now that catherine*s gonna be there you feel a little excluded. Well i hope i helped hun, if you need nething else just leave it in mi inbox and have fun!! xoxo, chelsea
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i understand all the way.
but you need to come to an answer, if you want to go or not.
if you dont : you can tell her that you have to go to your grandparents.. and lie about it . or you could tell her, i dont really feel cofortable going with catherine going and all.
or you could; go and say:
i am going and all, but i just want to tell you that i feel a little unconfortable with catherine going. i thought it was going to be just you and i. but now there is a third person. and just let her understand.. and she will try not to let you get unconfortable.
but as you said. you dont know catherine all that well. so maybe you should go . and get to know her.
im sure you will have a great time if you do go. but the choice is yours.
please ask any more questions on this . justine xO
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wow, it seems like you have a pretty big problem on your hands. anyway, look, if you dont want to go then dont go. if you go you probalby wont have very much fun because cathrine and sam are gonna be hanging out alot and i bet ANYTHING your gonna feel left out. it happens to everyone one time or another. and the parents wont really be any help with your problem. i mean if they are as wild as you say they are then it could be dangerous. plus you should really practice for your driving test, bc thats really important to focas on. i dont think its silly to be upset! to tell you the truth i would be consernd if you wernt. look, just tell your friend that you cant go because you really need to work on the driving test thing. thats my opinion on it. i hope i helped and feel free to ask me anything else.
♥ leah ♥
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well you have enough reasons to go and not to go
ask your self "do you really want to go?" "if you dont go will you regret not going?"
its just one day if i were you i would go and just have a good time
but the decision is totally up to you if you should go or not
if you would rather spend time with your cousins and practice for your driving test then do that
go and have fun
like you said before you dont know Catherine that well
this would be a good opportunity to get to know her better
have fun if you decide to go let me know how it goes and if you need anything else drop one in my inbox ♥
ADDED ADViCE - if you really need to practice on your driving and you would rather spend time with family then stay
but i would still go and enjoy my self its summer!
if you need anything else drop one in my inbox ♥
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I think you should prolly go and get to know her. If things don't work out, then OBVIOUSLY you won't be going next time she goes. But who knows? You could have the time of your life!!
keep it real n good luck
jenni
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