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Friend Or More?
I think I love my best friend, but I still kind of like this other guy. I have no idea if I love him as a close friend or more than just a friend. He has a girlfriend, but I just have no idea on how to tell him how I feel about him without becoming all nervous around him. How do I tell him, without getting butterflies in my stomack?
Confused Teen
13, female
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If you love him, then just either wait or just forget about him. There are always other people out there. So don't worry about it.
Hope all goes well,
Jenny M. aka Chong
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Get over him. He's not single so don't mess up his good relationship.
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hey, i'm like going through the exact same thing! ha. well, my guy does have a grilfriend too and it is very discouraging, i know. and i kind of like this other guy, but i really really liek my best friend! keep an open mind. dont tell you friend just yet about your feelings because if he is dating someone else, the he isn't that into you yet...
i say go for the guy you kind of liek until your best freidn breaks up with his girl. then break up with the guy you kind of like and then start building a super strong relationship with your best friend. then get a friend to tell him how you feel, but make it seem like she souldn't have told him. if he makes a move then he likes you, but if he doesn't then dont worry, you still have your freindship.
Also if you are not sure if you lie your friend then think about making out with him. do you liek the idea of you two together? well, then you like him.
hope i could help! i'm acctually doing the same thing, so tell me if it turns out good if you do do that!
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Dear Confused Teen,
Wow, the same thing happened to me when I was 13 years of age. Well, I was in love [literally] with this guy and the best part was, he was my best friend. Everyone always would tell me, "never go out with your best friend!" but I never listened. Just follow your heart [I know that is so pointless to say but still] if you think you like him, just tell him [I know that is SUCH a hard thing to do... trust me!] But, maybe he'll like you too and if you don't tell him then someone else might take him from you. I used to hate seeing my best friend that I like, loved go out with someone else... it drove me nuts! Make it casual, not a big deal! "Hey, I've been holding this in and I just wanted to tell you that I really like you and well, that's that." Work up to it though girl, take time! I really hope I helped!
Love to you,
Christine
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dear confused teen,
sounds like you have a mad case of your first love. of course you love him as a close friend because friends love each other especially if their close. now, what you must do is be the mature one and tell him that you are starting to feel alittle more for him than friendship. be firm in the conversation, but not overly aggressive. be informative, but do not leave important information out such as i like you, you mean the world to me, i can't see my life without you in it....things of that nature. if all else fails, invite this guy friend over and watch a movie...something that has to do with two friends(a girl and a guy) falling for one another. im sure he'll get the hint. you never know, he's probably feeling the same way about you. and yeah, don't let the girl friend that he has now intimidate you, remember you had him first. i have faith in you. you can do it. tell him.
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Do you really need to tell him, and make things awkward between him and you, and him and his girlfriend if you aren't even sure of your feelings?
My advice is to not tell him. It's not fair to dump your emotions on him while he is a relationship and you aren't sure what your feelings are. Look around for another guy, one you can be sure about, and one that is avliable.
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