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for 16 and up im so depressed...
so like my bf and me have been going out for 10 and 1/2 months, and we always fight about the same thing, Him going out, and today he told me that we should take a break, what is a break really and what should I do, I was so upset all I could do was cry... and whats worse i actually let him take his stupid break, and I dont know what to do, im so confused and hurt, and I cant break up with him because i love him, and he told me like a million times today he loves me, but i just feel like this is going to change our relationship, what should I do, i really need some help!@ im 16/f
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Sometimes a break is like breaking up, sometimes it's really taking a break. It depends on the guy. If he's the type who says forget it and gets another girl fast, it means he's breaking up.
If he's the type who will show love and respect to the girl, it means he's really taking a break because he may have other things going on. Hope I helped!
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he sounds like abit of a jerk if he truely loved you then he wouldn't act like this confront him about it and tell him he better get his act together i know you love him but sometimes you've got to be cruel to be kind i know it sounds harsh but thats all you can really do hope I helped sophie
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Unfortunately I see it as you do. Its just a way to break up when the person is to chicken to say they want out. I'm sorry. Find someone else. You don't need a break from someone that you care about. Not more than a few hours anyway. My guess is he would rather hang out with his friends and you don't think that should be his main focus. You're right, but he evidently isn't ready for a relationship.
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takeing a break is usally when people dont want to lose the person the have, but they want to date other people too. the problem with takeing a break is that, you guys wont be the same. who knows what could happen in the break in between, you guys could fine someone else you like. my best advice would be to break up, i know you love him and its hard, but life will move on and he's just not right for you. good luck, and i hope everything works out ok.
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Hun you need to talk to him.. usuaully these breaks turn into break ups.. ive seen it happen many many times.. try to get things straight before it becomes more then a break.. maybe try not trippin on him so much about him going out or what ever you argue and fight about it.. ♥ Dez
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FYI, I'm 15, not 16. I think it's kind of rude to exlude everyone 15 and under. Don't take my advice if you don't think I'm not old enough then.
First of all, it's just a break. Stop making it sound like a big deal. Sorry for being harsh, but you need to understand that a break is ESSENTIAL in a lot of relationships and in this case I think it's essential in yours.
A break doesn't mean it's OVER. A break is when you give it time to cool off or it can be a time for you to decide whether this is the person you want to be with or not. Would you rather have him take a break or would you rather break up with him? You said you love him so a break is better.
Please take a look at this link:
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Maybe you can better understand WHY people take breaks.
And of course, talk to him. You KNOW this already I'm sure. But once in a while everyone needs to actually DO it, not just know it. And obviously you haven't talked to him ENOUGH since you're asking us for advice. So sit him down and don't let him get up until you both settle EVERYTHING together.
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heyy. don't worry about it, guys will be guys! they were born to break hearts hun..just let him go, maybe it's for the better, especially if you two fight all the time! it's a typical high school relationship! they don't last forever. you just need to hang out with your friends, or go to the movies, or out for ice cream with your family to keep your mind off of him! don't let it bother you so much that you are constantly crying! guys are not worth your tears, and when you find one that is..he won't make you cry! remember that. that is the best piece of advice i can give you right now. other than to just let him do what he wants to do. and if he really truly likes you, he will come back to you. and if you are meant to be together you will be! (which i doubt..only because you are so young) i have always told people that it's high school. relationships are meant to be taken so seriously..people always think they are IN LOVE..idk it just bothers me. lol Good Luck!
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A break is where you break up. Sure you might think you'll get back together, but really you might get back together if you just call it breaking up. There's no real difference. It's just something someone says to lessen the blow. I suppose you can look at it like taking a break from each other and your relationship, but that's still breaking up. Clearly your boyfriend doesn't know what it means either.
After you added the new information: Wait, so why are you asking what a break is if you two have already established what you think a break is? The relationship ended, it's as simple as that.
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