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which one do i choose?
okay, ive been going out with my bf for a little over a week and i really like him and stuff. The problem is, i still am in love with my ex. But the thing is, my ex is beginning his first year of high school in the fall and i will be beginning 8th grade. He also lives really far away and his high school is pretty far away too. My current bf is really nice and everything but i still am in love with my ex. When my ex found out about the bf i have now, he got really jealous. I would dump my bf for him in a second, but i dont know if that would be the smart thing to do. What should i do? Please help me!
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When school begins again you will have dances and events that you may want to have a date for. Realistically that won't be easy for you to do with your ex. However, you can remain friends with him and maybe date later when distance isn't such a big deal (unless he drives now and visits often). :)
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To me it sounds like you ar estuck in a pretty cruddy situation. Okay hmm Although your ex mens bacically the world to you i think you should stick with the boyfriend you have now for a while i mean things could get better. Your ex is going to highschool wich could change him in many ways . I say you wait and rty new relationships untill you get to highschool cause then you and him can see more of eatchother if you know what i mean. Stick with the boyfriend you have now and i know itll be hard but i think that you should actually talk to both of them if you can and tell them both how you fel cause you cant have someone more hounest than the ppl who love you and you love them Hope i helped
Amanda***
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Okay, if you can't be faithful to the boyfriend you have now then i suggest that you dump him and get over the other guy first. Second i know you will hate me for this but i think you may be to young to know what love is. Im a few yrs older and i don't. Plus, he is your ex for a reason which means that he most likely doesn't love you back or the connection isn't strong enough. if hes so jealous he needs to do something about it. The breakup story would probably shine more light on the situation. Sorry if i haven't helped.
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YAY!! finally someone who i can help. i am going into the 9th grade and in the school district i am in you start highschool as a 10th grader. Next year is my boyfriends first year of high school and mi last year of jr high. any way enough about me. Its not fair to your current boyfriend to stay with him when you are in love with someone else. Id say no matter what if you dont want to end up hurting him more than you have to break it off. I say talk to your ex see how he feels. make sure he understands how you feel and if he feels the same way (truly) you will find a way to make your relationship work. Phone calls Weekends AIM you goys can make it work (besides he can drive soon rite?) haha email me and tell me how it goes GUiTaRpUnK9109@cs.com
LUVS!
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If you still like your ex then don't lie to the guy you're going out with now. It'd be better for you to dump him than for him to think that you like him.
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If you are so hung up on your ex, it wouldn't be fair to stick around with your current boyfriend. Could you imagine if you found out that your boyfriend was in love with another girl? It would probably crush you. My advice is to tell your boyfriend that it's not going to work, but tell him it's because he's going on to high school and it will be hard for the two of you to see each other. Don't tell him that you love someone else, because that would just hurt him.
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You could break up with your current boyfriend and just have fun dating and being single! It is not bad we promise =) You get to flirt with multiple boys, have girl nights, and learn how to be independent. However if you are asking which guy to choose, then the best choice would most likely be your current boyfriend. Just try your very best to forget the exboyfriend and maybe cut off any kind of connection you might have with him...no more long talks on the phone, chatting on the internet, or hanging out. Then you will get over him (hopefully) and you can start over by trying to be friends. Long distance relationships are very hard to manage and if he chooses to cheat on you, you might never find out because he does not live around people you know that would be good enough friends with you to tell you. That is just something to think about. Definitely do whatever you feel is best though and what your heart tells you. Also there are other guys out there...sweethearts and jerks...so be very thankful that your current boyfriend is a sweetie =). good-luck with whoever you choose!
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okay , apperntly the last answer didnt help oyu any ! so here i go ........why dont you go out with your ex because it seems you like him a WHOLE lot more then your bf now , and it seems like oyur ex likes oyu alot too ! so i think oyu should ask your ex out ! if oyu both love each other as much as it seems you can make the long distance thing work!
hope this helps**rate**lizzi**
ps: if you have anymore qestions drop one in my inbox xoxoyoulovemexox
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"If you think you love 2 people at once then you don't love either enough." - Micaela Logan
I strongly believe in this quote. Only one guy deserves to be loved by you.
You can't like your boyfriend and LOVE someone else at the same time. So decide now. Liking the ex shows that you don't care about your boyfriend as much as you thought. So choose now. Don't put it off either, because the longer you wait, the more hurt your boyfriend will be. If you decide your boyfriend is not the one for you, just sit down with him, and gently talk to him about it. It'll hurt him more the longer you wait so just do it. And I'm sure the last thing you want to do is break your boyfriend's heart even more by leading him on.
Your ex-boyfriend must have been your ex for a REASON. Think back to why you broke up. Are you willing to let that go and pretend it never happened? If you DO love him and you would "dump your boyfriend for him in a second" then DO IT. You can't say things like that and continue going out with your boyfriend.
If you really think you love your boyfriend and you decide you don't want to break up with him, you need to spend more time with him. Get to know him even better and get that other guy COMPLETLY out of your head. That's the least you can do for him. And even then, if you decide you still don't LOVE your boyfriend, it's time to break up with him.
And like I said, the minute you find out your boyfriend's not the one you truely love, you need to break up with him and save him more heart ache. But if you do decide he is the one that gets ALL of your love, get the other guy out of your head and spend more time with your sweetie.
Dating is about experiencing new things, trying things out, bonding with someone, and finding what you need and want. You don't have to be confined to one person forever, you are free to date people to find your soul mate.
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Man, punch yourself in the head!!! You're obviously NOT ready for a relationship...
...young kids like you should NOT be dating; this is COMPLETE folderol!!!
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